The traumatic exit process… The decision to leave UBF often takes months of agonizing prayer, thinking, and late night internet surfing. The decision alone is an exhausting, time consuming process of calculating just how to do it. Often, if any UBF people know you are considering leaving, you also have to deal with several closed…Read More Dealing with the aftermath of leaving
If you are a “sheep” not living in Common Life… This is the best situation to be in, if you have decided to leave UBF. Sheep run away all the time, and you should not have much to deal with. However, there are cases such as one college student only spent 2 years at a UBF…Read More I have decided to leave, now what?
A common promotion tactic by UBF leaders is to use the claim that UBF is a mainline, evangelical church. The reality is that UBF has zero connections to any of the 7 Protestant mainline churches. Neither does the group have any connection to the Catholic Church or any history with the Orthodox Church. UBF and…Read More Refutation: “UBF is a mainline, evangelical church.”
A common defense given by UBF leaders is that UBF is a good church, and there are only one or two disgruntled former members. The reality is that there have been four major exoduses of members since UBF was founded in 1961. The movements to reform, change, and improve UBF have been widespread, lead by…Read More Refutation: “There are only one or two disgruntled former UBF members.”
Former members have confirmed several abortion stories by in-person meetings. It is true that one of the two co-founders, Chang Woo (Samuel) Lee, requested a Korean missionary candidate couple to have an abortion “for the glory of God” if they wanted to be devoted missionaries to America. This happened in Korea in the 1970’s. In…Read More Refutation: “The abortion stories in UBF are just lies.”
UBF Shepherds and Missionaries are highly protective and territorial about their recruits. Stories abound about the bad things that will happen to you if you leave the group. The reality is that leaving is a traumatic experience for most members. Your life does temporarily become chaotic as you deal with unbinding your life from the…Read More Refutation: “If you leave UBF, you will go to hell or face tragedy.”
The most heated, passionate topic on the original UBFriends.org website was about leaving UBF. The article entitled “To Stay or Not To Stay?” generated the all-time most comments for any article on the site. Some argue you should stay in order to help reform the group. Others argue you should stay in order to remain…Read More Should I stay or should I go?