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Jul 2, 2018, 8:15 PM
One of the annoyances we former members have to deal with from time to time is the dreaded "check in". UBFers like to check in a few years after you leave--just to see how you are doing. Recently this is happening to me. It must be time for the international ubf conference, because a few ubf-related people have been checking in, not just on me, but on other former members as well. What they really want to know is this: Do you still think UBF is a cult? [...]
Jun 1, 2018, 4:07 PM
The results are in! The survey question was: What part of life after UBF are you most interested in discussing here? [...]
May 13, 2018, 12:40 PM
One of the surprises I discovered, after leaving the controlling religious group I had joined in my teenage years, is the number of odd reactions I have to certain events. For example, why do I have panic attacks when I hear a noise while taking a shower? I am finding these triggers are part of a healthy recovery from traumatic events in the past. Peter Levine's thoughts on trauma recovery are proving to be quite helpful in this regard. [...]
May 7, 2018, 5:11 PM
‚ÄčOne of the more difficult tasks of leaving an authoritarian religious group, for me, has been leaving behind a scripted life. I believe I have gone "off script" enough times to have overcome this challenge, but I am continually surprised by the embedded behaviors from the UBF group that surface from time to time. [...]
May 1, 2018, 12:19 PM
The first survey results of ubfriends 3.0 are in! What topics do readers want to hear about? We had 31 votes. Here is the breakdown [...]
Apr 30, 2018, 1:49 PM
Today, someone from Philadelphia just tried to erase the one sentence UBF trolls don't like in the Wikipedia article about the group. Please stop it! Such things only give the public more evidence that you are a cult. [...]
Apr 15, 2018, 1:21 PM
In 2019, the new General Director will take charge of UBF. These questions from 2011, for the current General Director, still appear quite relevant. Perhaps there will be a good answer this time? [...]
Apr 9, 2018, 3:20 PM
Hey everyone! I've decided to revive this blog. On one hand, what else is there to discuss here? The first two versions of this "you be friends" blog created quite a stir among readers and contributors (you can click the ubfriends 1.0 and ubfriends 2.0 links at the bottom of this page). Seven years after resigning from a highly controlling campus Bible group, I have little interest in discussing or debating the topics we've covered ad-nauseum here. There is, however, much to discuss. [...]

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