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Sep 8, 2018, 11:38 PM
[This is a testimony of a UBF member from California (El Camino UBF/Shepherds Church). She shared this during the Friday Testimony Sharing time on 9/7/2018. She prayed with her father and others, and was able to finish the entire testimony. The UBF people who heard this sat in silence.] During the Exodus, Jesus was given by the Father in order to grant and to sustain life. However, unlike the manna which only temporarily satisfied the hunger of the Israelites, those who partake of Christ will never be hungry again because the life He grants and sustains is eternal life (v. 35, 40, 47, 54). Christ's sustenance is not to be doubted. All who come to Christ in faith will never be cast out (v. 37). The Father has given a definite number to Christ who cannot be lost (v. 39), because the Father compels them to come to Jesus for salvation (v. 44), and because Jesus will raise them up on the last day (v. 39, 54). In John 10: 25-29, Jesus answered them, "I did tell you, but you do not believe. The works I do in my Father's name testify about me, 26 but you do not believe because you are not my sheep. 27 My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me. 28 I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no one will snatch them out of my hand. 29 My Father, who has given them to me, is greater than all[a]; no one can snatch them out of my Father's hand." [...]
Jul 2, 2018, 8:15 PM
One of the annoyances we former members have to deal with from time to time is the dreaded "check in". UBFers like to check in a few years after you leave--just to see how you are doing. Recently this is happening to me. It must be time for the international ubf conference, because a few ubf-related people have been checking in, not just on me, but on other former members as well. What they really want to know is this: Do you still think UBF is a cult? [...]
Jun 1, 2018, 4:07 PM
The results are in! The survey question was: What part of life after UBF are you most interested in discussing here? [...]
May 13, 2018, 12:40 PM
One of the surprises I discovered, after leaving the controlling religious group I had joined in my teenage years, is the number of odd reactions I have to certain events. For example, why do I have panic attacks when I hear a noise while taking a shower? I am finding these triggers are part of a healthy recovery from traumatic events in the past. Peter Levine's thoughts on trauma recovery are proving to be quite helpful in this regard. [...]
May 7, 2018, 5:11 PM
‚ÄčOne of the more difficult tasks of leaving an authoritarian religious group, for me, has been leaving behind a scripted life. I believe I have gone "off script" enough times to have overcome this challenge, but I am continually surprised by the embedded behaviors from the UBF group that surface from time to time. [...]
May 1, 2018, 12:19 PM
The first survey results of ubfriends 3.0 are in! What topics do readers want to hear about? We had 31 votes. Here is the breakdown [...]
Apr 30, 2018, 1:49 PM
Today, someone from Philadelphia just tried to erase the one sentence UBF trolls don't like in the Wikipedia article about the group. Please stop it! Such things only give the public more evidence that you are a cult. [...]
Apr 15, 2018, 1:21 PM
In 2019, the new General Director will take charge of UBF. These questions from 2011, for the current General Director, still appear quite relevant. Perhaps there will be a good answer this time? [...]
Apr 9, 2018, 3:20 PM
Hey everyone! I've decided to revive this blog. On one hand, what else is there to discuss here? The first two versions of this "you be friends" blog created quite a stir among readers and contributors (you can click the ubfriends 1.0 and ubfriends 2.0 links at the bottom of this page). Seven years after resigning from a highly controlling campus Bible group, I have little interest in discussing or debating the topics we've covered ad-nauseum here. There is, however, much to discuss. [...]

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