“Terror accomplishes no real obedience. Suspense brings forth no fruit unto holiness. No gloomy uncertainty as to God’s favor can subdue one lust, or correct our crookedness of will. But the free pardon of the cross uproots sin, and withers all its branches. Only the certainty of love, forgiving love, can do this.” ~ Horatius Bonar

I used this a lot in my ubf lectures. I tried to describe an example on my own blog a while back.

ubf lectures often just springboard into talking about one of the heritage points, no matter what bible verse we are talking about.

I thought the same way you do. But some reading of the passages with the word “baptized” was not a small revelation for me. I could see the “norm” of the Bible in this matter. I believe it is good to do for a leader of a church )) because in your words I see your good testimony as a Christian but can’t see a lesson for young believers and newcomers. Are they to think that they are better to be baptized in 10 years after they come to faith? :) Is communion and even baptism not a big deal for elite Christians like in WL?

I agree that would be helpful. Probably it is fear or trolling.

Also the ubf mindset is trapped in the low-level kinds of arguments, such as ad hominem or responding to tone only. They can’t move up to higher level arguments because they sense that they will lose the arguement.

The first thing that helped begin my journey of recovery was to “nail down the table”. I stopped allowing my personal controller to turn the tables on me. I refused to believe his words of condemnation about my spiritual life. I decided to find out on my own and obey my Master, Jesus.

And btw, we former members know this already but it is worth stating for our ubf friends: Nothing ever said on this blog comes close to what ubf directors said about us. You may think some words here are harsh. But they are gracious compared to ubf director’s words behind closed doors.

[For example: One ubf director told people they are “stupid” and “not intelligent”. But he would never ever say such things publicly.]

ubf people like to think of themselves (as I once did) as holy soldiers, the elite marines of Christianity. Some even envision their sheep bowing down to them in Heaven. Yet they can’t face the facts about themselves or their organization.

These are my (subjective) reasons why people in UBF do not express something “negative,” including why one “dislikes” any article or comment (Sorry in advance if this comes off as a broad sweeping generalization!):

* UBF does not promote or encourage critical thinking.
* UBF regards any critique that is not flattering or glowingly positive as complaining, criticizing, discouraging, bashing, and as being unthankful, immature and unspiritual.
* UBF people have been more or less conditioned to “Keep spiritual order,” and “Just obey.” There is little to no room in most of the UBF world for disagreement or objection with any “senior” UBF leader.

Thus, as a result, UBF people tend to:

* Be supersensitive about any less than favorable comment, such as the comments here on UBFriends.
* View any unfavorable comment about UBF as being bad, while at the same time being unable to explain clearly why it is bad beyond ad hominems and caricatures.
* Not develop objectivity and thus do not know how to respectfully and healthily critique something, such as a poor message, poor Bible study questions, predictable prayer topics and announcements, poor leadership, poor decisions by leaders, etc.
* Be fearful of honestly speaking up.
* Not know how to handle being critiqued and objected to after they object to something on UBFriends. I was told that some UBF people are now “scared” to comment on UBFriends, because they will simply get blasted for any “pro-UBF comments.”

All this to say that any dislikes of any article or comment will sadly go unexplained. I wish this were not so.

And I just have to exclaim, woa back up the bus:

“One person talked about divorce which he experienced. Another talked about polygamy in the ministry in Africa.”

That is what happenes when you push the heritage at any cost. I’ve said it before but it is worth repeating. ubf directors value loyalty and obedience supremely. So if you are loyal and obey the heritage points, you can do just about anything you want. As a director I could have created my own terrorist group and they would have accepted it as “donig world mission”.

ubf is going to need about 50 JA’s and dozens of ethics violation committees. We’ve only seen the tip of the iceburg.

Also when I was going through marriage by faith, I discovered that there is a baptism ceremony as a requirement before getting married in ubf. I’m not sure if that was a global requirement or just a requirement for me.

I was not baptized until about 10 years after I became a Christian. Interestingly I decided to get baptized primarily because a Bible student of mine was getting baptized before her marriage, so I joined her!

Since baptism was not part of my “spiritual formation,” I do not sense its “value.” I say this because even though I was never physically baptized I knew from my heart that God changed my heart at my conversion in 1980, and that I have been baptized by the Holy Spirit and was no longer the person I was. Of course, I still have a lot more changing that needs to happen!

Regarding communion, it is similar to baptism in that it was not and is not part of my spiritual formation. Though I do not have communion regularly, I know God’s presence and that I want to be in constant communion and fellowship with Him daily.

That said, we do baptize our kids and new believers, and have communion now at West Loop averaging about once every few months, or several times a year.

This conundrum is even larger when you know that UBF’s key verse is Mt 28:19 which explicitly talks about baptism. If you call this verse a “command” as UBF is doing, that command includes baptism!

Sure, some will say that baptisms happened here and there in UBF. But that was already arbitrary and sporadic, depending on the mood of the leader and if members demand it, and there was never a systematic teaching and practice of baptism in UBF.

In my chapter I never saw that a child of a missionary was baptized, neither as an infant, nor later. When non-Christians became believers in UBF, nobody cared to baptized them either, even if they were never baptized as children. So I didn’t experience a single baptism in 10 years of UBF.

Sarah Barry writes (http://www.washingtonubf.org/AboutUs/ubf-history.php): “We accepted Jesus’ command to make disciples of all nations, teaching them to “obey everything I have command you.” (Mt 28:19,20) But they didn’t even obey the simple command to baptise mentioned in this very verse. Instead, they taught their disciples to obey many other things that Jesus never commanded.

It would be an interesting question worth a blog post on its own why UBF does not emphasize baptism (and holy communion ftm). My personal understanding is that UBF is mainly what Samuel Lee made it to be. And Samuel Lee seemingly hated things that resembled orthodox, traditional churches. In the UBF building in Chicago which had been a real church before UBF, he removed all things that resembled a church. It’s consequent to remove baptism and communion as well. He always wanted people to feel that it’s not enough to be a “normal” Christian, you need to be a “UBF Christian”. Second, baptism is a reaffirmation of the fact that Christians are saved, by the finished work of Christ. But Samuel Lee didn’t want that people are sure of their salvation. What keeps a UBFer running and obeying the UBF leaders is the fear of not being saved. So UBF does not want to talk about baptism.

I really liked the interest group I attended, which was Shepherding with integrity. We talked about ethical issues that is going on in UBF. AW and AS led it. When people asked what bad stuffs had happened in UBF, AW generally said a list of really horrible things. I was shocked. This interest group was transparent. He couldn’t go into details. We broke down into small groups and people were able to talk about their experiences. In my group were people from Canada, Germany, US, a former missionary to Russia and Ukraine. We wrote what are the ethical problems, past and present. How should it be resolved. One person talked about divorce which he experienced. Another talked about polygamy in the ministry in Africa. There were a lot of interesting topics. There were about 5 or more people from Toledo. One meeting was not enough, though. It was just the tip of the iceberg. I wanted to know about the accountability of leaders who were abusive. Just the fact that this Interest Group was at the conference made this conference worthwhile. I hope and pray that an ethical code of conduct can be made for our ministry and those who break them should be accountable.

Another thing that made this conference a blessing was that our son went out for the Altar call and so did our three sisters from Ukraine. Though many say an Altar call is just an emotional reaction, I was very happy about our son. He has been through a lot, like life and death stuff and not because of UBF but personal reasons. John and I have been praying for him and our prayer was that this conference may make a difference in his life. The thing that moved him about the conference was what the guest speaker said. It made the gospel so simple and understandable about God’s love for us. Our son couldn’t stop talking about it. I don’t believe the altar call is a one shot deal to know Jesus. But it is a step. I hope that he can come to Jesus who said, “It is finished” so that he does not have to prove anything to anyone or to himself but just believe that God paid for all his sins on the cross. When he knows this Jesus then he can really be set free and be a happy man.

Yes this conference has its flaws but isn’t amazing how God can work in the midst of our weaknesses and shortcomings.

btw, yesterday at the GLS was astounding. Today was 10 times more astounding. Andy Stanely’s closing sermon is a must-see sermon. Andy might have just saved Christianity in North America. Literally. God is doing amazing things around the world.

Willow Creek Global Leadership Summit

My favorite speaker today was Chris Brown. His point was servant leadership. He hammered home like I’ve never heard before the message that Jesus turned leadership upside down, demanding His followers to not create an authority hierarchy based on the “not so with you” passage and others. He implored church leaders to reject the Moses and Elijah models and surrender to Jesus to learn leadership (based on the Transfiguration events).

It was awesome to have a discounted rate by the church (as opposed to always being asked to pay more as a leader at ubf).

Right now I don’t have words to express what just happened today. I am breathless, speechless and entirely blown away and amazed beyond belief. Today several more layers of crud fell off as I heard real world class leaders speak of real Christianity. Every sentence seemed to contradict what ubf taught me. Every word chipped away at the ubf heritage that was still entangled in my mind.

After every speaker I thought “ubfers MUST hear this!” and “ubf could be revolutionized and explode with potential if they believed this stuff!” and “I must write an article on every speaker!”

Brian: That’s great! You’re at the GLS! I’m kind of jealous. I was gonna be there but I already went to ISBC. Are you at the Willow Creek South Barrington campus or are you viewing it via satellite?

People in ubf are crying out for a leader with courage to voice concerns and lead the organization out of its crisis.

(Yes I am attending the Leadership Summit right now! All ubf leaders desperately need to listen to Bill Hybels and take note of what Willow Creek is doing.)

She laughed and said, “That’s why you deserve the jerk of the year award!” That’s why I love her to death, since “insulting each other” is our premier and primary love language!

“You may rightly object to the use of increased numbers as a “sign of God’s blessing on UBF.” One could also rightly object to the use of decreased numbers as a “sign of God’s disfavor upon UBF.”

Numbers don’t reflect a sign of blessing or of curse. But that is what ubf directors teach, correct? They live and die on numbers. All ubfers know that.

There is a saying in business that I believe is true: “Don’t follow the numbers. Money and numbers follow, they do not lead.” ubf has been chasing numbers for 50 years. Numbers increasing is ALWAYS seen as a sign of God’s blessing. When numbers decrease, heads roll.

So ubf directors will not talk about the 21 PERCENT drop in attendance from 2008 to 2013. They won’t talk about real numbers of what’s going on in Korea. Do you have those numbers?

The numbers do tell a story however. The numbers show that ubf does not offer a vision that people can accept. As Joe pointed out, ubf can no longer enforce the unwritten mandatory attendance rule that used to exist. The numbers reflect just what we have been testifying to here: there is a crisis of people leaving the ministry, especially among leaders.

ubf conferences are always like family reunions. Those reunions continue to become more and more painful. Heck, Joe Schafer was a conference messenger at the 2008 ISBC! Does no one care that they didn’t even attend this year?

I don’t believe that the number of attendees going up or down is a sign of God’s favor or disfavor. But ministry leaders do have a long history of interpreting numbers that way. I recall many occasions when SL, during his lengthy announcements, would talk about the number of 1:1 Bibles studies and SWS attendees in various fellowships as a measure of the leaders’ spiritual condition or as a sign of God’s blessing or disfavor. One of his favorite expressions was, “Numbers don’t lie.”

No, I do not believe that the drop in the number of attendees is a measure of God’s displeasure. But it is definitely a symptom of organizational malaise.

I will just say this: I witnessed one person attend an interest group and walk out reconciled with another person. If the conference was just attended by two people–those two people who reconciled–then what a dang great work of God.

At a graceorlando.com link on the finished work of Christ, we read this message of grace:

“If Christ’s Atoning work is finished, what folly and what sin to attempt to supplement it! What vast numbers are doing this! Away with your tears, your confessions, your duties, your charities, even your repentance and faith, if these things dare to take their place side by side with the finished work of Christ! See that you attempt to add nothing to it.”

But through its John 19 messenger last week, UBF said that Jesus’ proclamation that “It is finished” allows us to “have a new beginning”. Funny that a sacrifice that perfectly finishes merely gets us to another beginning. And what can we do with this new beginning? Well, we can “be purified to form healthy families”, rescue our marriages from the verge of divorce, renew marriage vows, and after some years go to another city and pioneer a new UBF chapter, then finish a discipleship program in this city which results in five new UBF recruits being raised as disciples … and, of course, that’s still just the beginning …

It’s no surprise to me that the finished work of Christ wasn’t adequately conveyed during that message or the conference. It stands in opposition to the Gospel of Mission.

In addition, in my Bible study group, there was an interesting discussion regarding the troublesome practice of counting the number of NEW 1:1s Bible study mentoring relationships that one has in one’s personal ministry, and whether this counting (and publicizing such counting in life testimonies) actually reflects love for God/love for others. There was a sort of half-serious/half tongue-in-cheek proposal (Uh, I won’t say who proposed it!) in which we begin to start counting the number of OLD 1:1s in which there was a serious strain/relational break-down (or failure to love) in which we ended up sincerely and humbly working toward toward restoration and reconciliation. I personally would be fine with UBF charts that tracked the number of OLD 1:1s that have ended in a failure to love in which we were now working on toward restoration and reconciliation in love. Let’s count that and talk about those numbers at the next ISBC. :)

God bless you all.

* Looking at hundreds of empty seats that would have been filled with many of us: F

Given that the conference theme was love, I’d like to hear whether anyone tried to define it. This is an important issue, because I’ve seen lots of bad behavior justified as love.

There weren’t any public pronouncements that I heard during the conference that God blessed the weather just for the conference.

Also, I only heard one (ONE!) public pronouncement comparing the conference to heaven (or as a “glimpse of the heavenly banquet”).

Just as a large rhino keeps running for quite a while after being shot, even though it’s dead, ubf will indeed keep plowing on in denial. So many doors of opportunity have been intentionally closed. What can anyone do with those who take authority and keep holding onto it? The only real option is to discuss it so everyone can see what’s happening.

I expect ubf to start to become very un-predictable however in the next 1 to 2 years. 2015 will be a pivotal year and there’s no telling what might happen. I’m actually looking forward to seeing what happens then, if the Lord allows me to see it.

One ubf leader at that retreat confidently predicted that the attendance in 2013 would be several hundred more than in 2008 because every conference until then had reliably increased by several hundred. I thought to myself, “If that’s what he thinks, he’s in for a surprise. I’ll bet that the attendance in 2013 is going to be lower than in 2008.”

I’m not writing this to gloat or to say, “See, I told you so.” I’m not claiming to have any special foresight. Anyone who had eyes to see and ears to hear should have seen this coming.

So that means a 21% drop in attendance (700) from 2008 to 2013.

“We thank God for answering our 3,000 prayers. God blessed our registration. Altogether more than 3,300 members from 77 nations attended. God blessed all the messengers of UBF, HBF and MBF meetings by the help of the Holy Spirit. After 3 World Mission Night’s video presentation and life testimonies, more than 500 young and senior members came out making a pledge to be a missionary anytime to anywhere. God also gave us cool weather as we prayed. When we left Purdue, the temperature returned to normal, 90 degree Fahrenheit.”

http://www.ubf.org/content/isbc-has-begun

The figure of 2,600 that you noted was posted later and is probably more accurate.

“Around 2,600 attendants came from 71 countries, as well as 11 special guests from other ministries. There were 16 messages, 27 life testimonies, 4 world mission night programs, 7 world mission videos by continent, group Bible studies with testimony sharing, 38 interest group sessions, various special music and dance programs, a skit and dramatic animation of a Bible passage, and sports tournaments.”

This really is unprecedented. Up until 2008, the attendance at every international conference held in North America increased by several hundred. This time, it dropped by several hundred. Attendance from North America was smaller than anticipated.

I would attribute the drop to these interrelated factors.

* A large number of North American leaders have left the ministry over the last two years.

* The former policy of mandatory attendance is no longer being enforced because it cannot be enforced.

* Morale is low; members are burned out and tired; leaders have not presented a compelling vision capable of inspiring people; the ministry is badly in need of renewal.

I’m curious to see whether this decline in numbers gets mentioned in ubf publications (I bet it won’t). And I’m curious to see whether leaders discuss it among themselves and ask why. (I wager that many will blame this website.)

* Non-UBF American speaker (Fri afternoon): A+++

* Music: A

* Interest Groups: A

* Basketball: A

* Bible studies: B? (People enjoy the fellowship)

* Life Testimonies: D (formulaic, scripted)

* Messages/Sermons: E (except for Mark Moran and Abe Lee) – Rehearsed performance, not natural, speaking too slowly, saying “Heloo,” talking about “best wife” (I did this at the 1989 ISBC!), awkward gestures, “Stone Age message and life testimonies.” No one said this, but from what I watched, the messenger asking people to repeat something really comes across condescendingly like you’re speaking to learning disabled kindergarten kids rather than mature adults.

* Long distance commute, cost: E

Truly, there are many who bless, pray, and love seemingly without bounds. They reflect the image of Christ. They are the ones who make the ministry so enticing to newcomers. Through their hard work and sacrifice, the conference could happen. They are doing their best before the Lord and are to be commended.

But I will not commend the crux of UBF–pleasing God through human efforts and raising disciples through control. No matter how loving the workers are in UBF, when the leadership (who are really not leaders as much as controllers) adamantly and unrepentantly hold to these as their sacred calves, all that beautiful love and service gets poisoned. “A leaven works through the whole dough.”

secondgen777, I believe there is only one thing that is really necessary, and that is corporate repentance. As long as I can’t see this happening, everything else has no value. In my eyes, it even makes things worse because if people start to make changes it shows they understand that the old ways were wrong. But they still don’t want to repent. The human way is to make gradual improvements and to be content with them. But we can never reach God that way. In fact, all the efforts make things only worse (as exemplified by the Pharisees in the Bible). The only way to God is Jesus, and this means to repent and to admit sins, and this includes all the sins commited by UBF through following the practices and teachings of his leaders, including very ugly sins like forcing abortions and covering such things up. “God is light; in him there is no darkness at all. If we claim to have fellowship with him and yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live out the truth. But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin. If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar and his word is not in us.” These verses do not talk about gradual changes, but about living in the light. That is the only change that needs to happen. If UBF does not walk in the light, there is nothing to rejoice. As I explained, seeing all these efforts by young people that help to cover up the past and make leaders continue without repentance, it makes me sad.

I only caught one mention of KOPHN. Maybe this meaningless slogan has finally met its end. Or maybe it was just replaced temporarily by SLSL.

“Establish a house church” is the new “marry by faith”.

The first skit was good but devolved into a bout of Bible verse quoting toward the end. But you know … baby steps.

Why were prayers offered for the general director (Mr. Kim) but also for Mr. Jun, the former general director? The prayer made it sound like the two were on almost equal footing (a partnership?) when it comes to “setting the direction” of UBF. Because of the shockingly Stone Age nature of the messages and testimonies in an otherwise “modern-age” conference program, the continued role of the Mr. Jun troubles me a bit.

The CCM, skit and multimedia elements at the conference would have been familiar to anyone who’s attended local churches that have active youth and/or young adult groups. But the core teachings seem to be little changed, as evidenced by the messages and testimonies, in both content and delivery. The impression I get is that UBF is just repackaging itself: the same core teachings surrounded by modern trappings, a velvet-covered hammer. Could it be that the messages and testimonies were the core Chicago/Korean leadership’s assertion of their authority? If so, I wouldn’t expect substantive changes within this generation.

I was ready to sacrifice a lot for what I considered right. The Russian messenger from this year conference told me when I was leaving that I “simply overworked”. In fact I realized i worked for what was deep wrong.

As I can see this conference was not so intense as previous. There are some changes but all of them are superficial. Same boasting, same training theme, same control theme (what was mentioned in the comments) etc. I do know what stands behinds them – what teachings and what practices. The fact this stuff is still coming out from the pulpit of international conference implies ubf leadership is not trying to change the core issues. It would be very simple if they try to.

Overall, I agree with the general sentiments you posted, Ben.
Just based on the messages I heard, I sensed a lack of a clear focus on God’s love – instead, it seems like the message of “So Loved, So Love” ended at the human level, and not just in a UBF way. I don’t know if that makes sense, but I notice that many people who seek Christ, whether or not they’re not in UBF, seek for some kind of peace within themselves. This is not necessarily wrong, but it just kind of ends there. And like most people here hinted at, the messages were almost like performances.

I had a friendly disagreement with a close friend about the woman messenger as well – I was very encouraged by a woman speaker while my friend (a woman) did not think it was Biblical either. However, I was hoping to hear more depth from a great diversity of speakers, but instead they were all very similar (I’m almost getting tired of the family photos and the “my wife is the most beauuuuttifulllll woman in the world” spiel).

Ok, some good:
The music, skit and the many people who dedicated themselves to Jesus for the first time were all moving.

As others mentioned, I loved seeing old friends again. The downside to that was that I didn’t really meet anything new. Nevertheless, meeting old friends from all over the globe was like witnessing testimonies of God’s work – many of them had grown so much in faith. Also, with such a huge conference, it’s easy to get overwhelmed. I would have loved to have more personal conversations with people, but instead I could only exchange smiles or “Hello, how are you’s”. This leads to the awesomeness of interest group time….

The interest group was one of the best parts of the conference, in my opinion. This time allowed for more honest and personal discussion in areas that our ministry hasn’t traditionally focused on. Though the “healthy communication” group was canceled, there was certainly some of that in my refreshing IG. I wish the IG time was longer.

As alluded to in my post, the altar call was the result of Charles Finney, who was the main figure of the 2nd Great Awakening. Some scholars and theologians regard Finney as a heretic. He popularized the idea that you can cause any person to convert to Christ by using certain techniques and strategies, all of which amount to emotionalism and manipulation.

Billy Graham has also been criticized for his famous altar calls. According to some research, 90% of people who responded to a Billy Graham altar call stop going to church after 5 years.

That said, when the Gospel is clearly heard, preached, or taught, the desired result–which is entirely the work of the Holy Spirit–is to respond with repentance and faith (Ac 2:37-39). Obviously, this does not need to happen with an altar call. It can happen in any situation of life–when one reads the Bible, reads a book, prays, reflects, meditates, etc. The starting point of the redemption of the lost son, is when he came to his senses (Lk 15:17), and he was starving to death among stinky oinking pigs!

It is likely that we are coming from two different theological positions. You mentioned being saved by a decision, while on the other hand, I believe that true saving faith and repentance is the gift of the sovereign grace of God. I’m sorry that you felt my comment was inappropriate, but I’m still convinced that the Biblical data does not support this practice. And on top of that I believe that a number people who participated in the altar call may be deceived in thinking that salvation works in such a way. I’m not saying that God could not have been working. Surely, God can draw a straight line with a crooked stick. Nevertheless, God will work His salvation in people’s hearts without such human derived contraptions, which I still believe do more harm than good.

And, as Joshua said, through such conferences people get sucked into UBF and into the whole spiral of guilt and abuse, marriage problems, child neglect etc. Those young people who served the conference with fresh ideas and professional music, videos etc. probably tried to do their best with good intentions. But in effect, they make it only harder for attendees to see the real face of UBF which is different. And they make it also harder for the UBF leaders to repent because such conferences and the atmosphere (which was created by the young members, not by the leaders) seem to give credibility to their ministry. So they believe they can go on and on without repentance.

@savedbygrace1, I hear you. I’ve been sleep deprived and grumpy, and that’s not entirely the fault of the conference. Maybe I was trying too hard to incorporate another C.S. Lewis quote. I probably should have closed with a simple statement that it’s unthinkable that God would want such practices to be associated with him.

However, the truth is that change is happening, albeit much more slowly than we would have hoped. The interest groups themselves such as “Emotionally healthy spirituality: can we go back to the Bible without it?” and “The Holy Spirit,” and “Corporate Worship,” just to name a few prove that point.

Although I was disappointed by a lot of things, I also could not deny that there were definitely some improvements from previous conferences, including the benediction by a guest speaker on saturday evening.

Rebuke of UBF requires mercy, as well as acknowledging, rejoicing, and focusing on the improvements that are being made instead of the things that didn’t measure up. In my experience this is how God has dealt with me over the course of my Christian life. He is long-suffering with me. If God compiled a list of everything that I do wrong or need to improve on, it would overwhelm me and discourage me. He doesn’t do that, instead he gently shows me one or two areas where I can improve and then rejoices and celebrates when I find victory.

In the same way, when we speak against the flesh of UBF, we must all avoid the temptation to focus so much on the negative that we cannot see the baby steps that are being made towards wholeness.

In large part, I am preaching to myself here

My dad is a doctor. He went with some other doctors and a group of American/Canadian pastors. We went to a womens prison. When many of the women saw me–an 8-year-old blond-haired, blue-eyed kid–they were reminded of their own sons. Many of them crowded me and hugged me with tears. I was very moved and touched. From movies I had the impression that Russians were stoic and unemotional; then I realized that it is really not true.

Blessings!

God bless!

I was a messenger at couple of int ubf conferences. So I know where these unnatural gestures are come from. I had to come to Chicago about a week ahead and read the manuscript about 10 times a day with the “trainer” help. This is not a pleasant memory of being a puppet. Still much better than to be a puppet. ))

I am fully aware that most if not all of the people on UBfriends do not intend to over criticize or discredit the work of God that does happen to go on in UBF.

I am also aware of the many abuses that people here have experienced through UBF, even through ISBCs. I also share in that painful experience and am also a vocal critic of UBF’s systematically abusive practices and doctrine.

I do not wish to paint anyone here as a fire-breathing child of hell, because I don’t think any of you are.

I was referring to comments like this “I thought the altar call was simply inappropriate, and of course unbiblical.” and others made about the altar call which seemed to discredit the real work of the Spirit that was happening in those young people’s hearts.

We do all need to be careful not to over speak and over critique

Praise God that indeed He uses all manner of people and circumstances to accomplish His work. When I attended my first UBF conference, I was so enthused by the work of God and the Spirit worked powerfully in my heart and life. I believe that He is continually doing so in and through the ISBC. May He continue His good work in everyone’s hearts who were there.

You are right that it is not good to disparage or cause “little ones” to stumble. Our words here are not written with that intention. Yet it is because I myself am a little ones who stumbled that I speak so candidly and passionately. I met Jesus through the conferences, and through it began a life-long love relationship with him. But it was also the way that I was sucked into a works-righteousness paradigm that stunted my spiritual growth, infected me with a wrong view of God, and induced me to seize control of others’ lives while surrendering control of my own and that of my family. These are not things that came by accident, but were the deliberate (albeit implicit) objectives of the conferences. While I pray that the young people who met God through the ISBC grow strong in Jesus’ grace, I also pray that they are not led into the kind of life in UBF that I and my family were led into.

And by the way, there is a big difference between critique/evaluate and discredit. Despite what may be portrayed of us exUBFers, we are not fire-breathing children of hell with little horns running around with pitchforks, trying to destroy and discredit what God is doing. A solemn, even-tempered, and critical perspective is healthy, and healthy organizations welcome it.

I really enjoyed the praise and worship, the drama, and the altar call.
I went down to where the altar call was taking place even though I had already made a decision to follow Christ in order to support those who were making that decision for the first time. I talked to one young high school student there and his love and desire to know God was so genuine. We prayed together and I felt much joy and hope in my heart, not only from him, but from the many other people there who honestly wanted to know God.

Later, I was asked to come to the prayer room to intercede on behalf of a group of high school girls who desperately wanted to meet Christ but for some reason could not. Me, and several others prayed with tears with our heads to the ground for them to receive Christ while several others counseled them in another room. I’m not sure what came of that situation but I am sure that God’s glory was being revealed.

Even despite these things, I still felt very cynical about the conference overall. Most of the programs and Bible studies were just the same old ones that I had already heard over and over again.

However, after talking with another young mbf student about the conference, I realized how jaded I had become. I asked him what his favorite part about the conference was and he said with the most honest and genuine expression on his face “I liked all of it.” I was so moved by that statement. I realized that he had truly experienced something of God from this conference.

That is not to say that all of my qualms about the programs are unwarranted, of course not. The point is that people who are just beginning to grow in faith experienced God through this conference and I want to encourage that. Jesus tells us that whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin it would be better for him to have a large millstone tied around his neck and to be tossed into the sea.

Suppose that when I talked to these young people about the conference I had brought up all of the things that were bothering me. That would have been so discouraging and hurtful to them

Sure, the testimonies were strange, but at the end of the day, it was still their true life stories and I saw that God really did change their lives. The messages were very basic, but the truth of God was still being proclaimed from the pulpit. The bible studies were shallow, but once again, we were still talking about Jesus and seeking to follow him.

I also really enjoyed the Holy Spirit breakout session, through it, we all had an encounter with him.

To those who seek to completely discredit any work of God that took place at this conference whether it was the altar calls, praise and worship, etc. I challenge you to realize that our God is a God who works through imperfect people in bad situations. Even if the aim of UBF was to glorify itself (which I do not think it was for the most part) God can and will still work through it for his glory to bring people to him. He wouldn’t waste an opportunity like this.

My former chapter director in UBF purposely avoided using “sermon” and preferred “deliver a message” to describe his Sunday sermon. He said that sermon implies the preacher is speaking his own ideas, while message means that the preacher is delivering only God’s words. He envisioned himself as a sort-of disembodied voice of God or messenger of God, and by doing so, eliminated any possibility for dissenting voices or having to listen to contrary opinions within the chapter, because he is the “messenger of God.”

Doesn’t this show how powerful words are? UBF missionaries frequently pretend that they are poor in speaking English, but don’t believe them. They are very clever in the way of redefining words, choosing words, and avoiding meanings to reframe how their members think, inhibiting them from properly articulating their thoughts and communicating properly.

This is a picture of some “bitter” former ubf members being baptized ))

My English practice was inside ubf mostly so sometimes I can’t be sure if I can use this word or another.

btw I have a question, is “to deliver a message” a normal English/American phrase or a ubfism? If it is a ubfism then what do you do with the message at the podium? Thanks.

(This week I am going to be an interpreter for a conference in another city for some American guest speakers)

Attendant: A person employed to provide a service to the public in a particular place: “a gas station attendant”

Attendee: A person who attends a conference or other gathering.

In 2008 I became a debtor in order to participate in the conference. It cost me about 3000$. I owed this money to Christian people and payed back only in 2012 after I left ubf. I lived with the feeling of shame and guilt for all those years. At the moment I left ubf I had accumulated more debts (+3500$). And I always thought about the conference. “Why did I participate? What did it give me? Was it a blessing for me? What other Christians think about it and about me as I became such a shameful debtor before them with no possibility to pay back for many years? Why God gave me such a difficult time after the conference?” God began to bless me and let me free from the debts only after I left ubf (even miraculously).

What I liked about the 2008 conference the most was the pool which I did my best to attend every day. That was nice and btw the people there were very natural for they were Americans, not ubf members. Among the messages I remember only JR’s message about the prodigal son. JR did well, performed well. (btw I couldn’t understand why JR didn’t do anything at all when some Moscow (and Kiev) ubf leaders whom he knew very well left ubf and even now I haven’t heard anything from him about the issues. Though I think I understand for I remember him saying at a messangers training, “SL said that!” meaning that it was an absolutely perfect interpretation of a Bible passage by SL. He has been a very loyal disciple of the “servant of god”, unfortunately)

This time as I see some reports and reflections about the conference I am happy I am out of all this ubf’s stuff. This week five former ubf members were baptized in a local church (two weeks earlier other four-five former ubf members from our chapter were baptized in another local church). God’s blessing was there. I liked that when the pastor was saying, “Look, here is water! Why shouldn’t I be baptized?” a sudden raining started. Here is water!!! And right after we were baptized it stopped raining and the sun was shining. We sang, “O happy day!” and it was a very happy day. And I don’t think there were many happy people at the 2013 ubf conference under the alter call and the missionary pledge and the unnatural messages and testimonies.

Imagine that no Korean attend this conference what would it look like? What about no Koreans in ubf? ubf would dissappear. Or maybe some healthy local churches would come out of this. I just can’t understand Korean “local churches” in any country of the world, Korean “international” conferences in the USA. Local churches should be “local” and local people should form their church and local people should pastor it. Then naturally the messages would become natural and sincere and truthful. I like Koreans but I’d like to stay natural Russian and attend a Russian local church and listen to natural Russian messages. I’d like to be whom God created me to be and share the gospel with people of my cultural context.

We are doing Matthew study now. And I asked myself a question, “What would I do if God sent me to share the gospel with Jews like Matthew?”. My answer is, “I would pray and ask God’s mercy that He would convert a single Jew person through me the sooner the better so that I could leave him there with the Holy Spirit raising a local church for local people”. I would never think about bringing many Russians to Israel and to other countries to make them 90% in local churches (especially when I know for sure that such “balance” makes nothing else but hinders the work of God).

This unnatural “balance” can produce only unnatural messages and testimonies for those who are of the 10% non-Korean attendants.

Thanks for the article. As someone who is familiar to big production presentation in a church, I think the ISBC coordinators/planners did a good job with the stage set up. The stage lights were cool and the back drop was cool. It reminded me of my church. The bands that led worship were pretty good, though I liked the Lincoln Park worship band better than New York. The worship song selections were so so. I thought they could have chosen better worship songs. I only liked couple songs like “How Loves Us” by David Crowder and some other song which I can’t recall. In addition, I liked how the orchestra played their music. The solo violinist, Joy Vucekovich, played awesome.

The ISBC intro video was pretty well done by UBF. It almost looks professional. The presider was cool, especially with his Cookie Monster hat :).

The messengers sounded the same, if though someone had programmed them to speak the same. I felt they were very unnatural with the way they spoke and even the hand gestures were pretty awkward. In addition, they come to the podium saying the same, “Helloooo!” (Waving their arms awkwardly). I thought coming back to a UBF conference. I really felt that it was going to be different, especially the way they deliver the message of the Word of God. Correct me if I’m wrong. This is just my honest opinion. It seemed that they boast about “House Church” marriage. I’ll tell you how it sounded in my mind while I was hearing the messages. “Since I study 1:1 bible study in UBF, I overcome my sin problem; God blessed me a wonderful House Church and 1:1 bible studies with sheep.”Imagine those people who have marriage problem feels about it?

The highlight of the conference for me was the guest speaker. She really hit the spot. She said (in my own words) that your actions speak louder than your words. After that message, I felt that I’m ready to go home. I was blessed by it. Also, I really enjoy our bible study group. I really believe that the people I was with were very humble people and nice people. Also I enjoyed our late night discussion/oral testimony sharing. We had blessed time together :).

I almost walked out of the last day of the conference. Honestly, we heard enough of the same type of messages in the whole conference. It was boring me. By the way missionary pledge, I think it was just wrong to do that. Writing something on a paper doesn’t make you committed to become a (UBF) missionary. It should come from true spirituality that comes from the knowing of God that translates to loving God and loving people.Yes, we should have a missional life in Christ that’s led by the Holy Spirit. “‘Not by might nor by power, but by My Spirit,’ says the LORD of hosts.” Anyway I enjoyed my time. It was good to visit my old UBF friends. The people that I knew and had fellowship with during my time at UBF, seemed that they had forgotten about me :/. My former shepherd didn’t even visit me :/. Anyway during the conference, I met some people from different chapters of UBF. Most of them are students and they seem that they were enjoying their time. It was a good time talking to them.The bus trip to Chicago after the conference was fun. I met a student who is new to UBF. We spend time talking and asking me what church I currently attend. It made the time go faster.

The alter call is unfortunately transparent for many. I for one did not stand up or close my eyes or do anything of the sort in 2008. But look at me now – when placed in a real life decision to go to Korea I did just that. In fact I am serving faithful Bible study to students. My availability has been highly limited by the jobs that I happened upon. That being said, I am managing in my faith.

Anyhow, this is about the conference. Regarding testimonial from message or testimony. Yes, about bf/gf and marriage. That is why I was impressed by Vladimir Point in 2008 when he challenged that issue in his message “….if you want your students to run away…” I did not get a chance to enjoy most of the streaming from UIP, but what I did see I was familiar with from my many years in UBF and attending conferences.

Frankly, seniors, if your reading….take notice that many more young attendees may contribute here. No, they are not demon possessed. Consider carefully what you read and revise/correct future conferences. I bet you can find many young people who value UBF for what it has done in their life, but please be prepared to hear, listen to and accept the other side of the coin!

“There are many that are such a blessing, truly love others, and are so faithful in prayer for others. They are truly the beauty of the ministry. It appears, from my experience, that there are a just a few that have made things difficult for me. But strangely, it seems that the ones who cause divisions and make it difficult tend to in more leadership positions.” – See more at: http://www.ubfriends.org/2013/08/05/post-2013-isbc-reflections/#sthash.eXPVSpb5.dpuf

Thanks for your input. Of course, I wasn’t at IUP, but I liked looking at the pictures friends posted on FB. While I was looking at them, my wife commented: “People look so energetic, joyful, and excited. But that’s not the reality at all.”

Being a soft complementarian or semi-egalitarian, I probably do not have a real big issue with women preachers or pastors. I love listening to Nancy DeMoss teach and preach to women (since she is a complementarian). She is spirited, joyful, convicting, gracious and gospel-centered whenever I hear her on Moody radio.

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Anyway, back on topic. The conference. I usually don’t go to conferences for more than an evening, but the day they asked me I was in a good mood and I said yes. I changed my mind later, but I made the commitment and I felt I had to go.

The People: I was surprised that about 90% of the people that were there were Asian. I thought an International Bible conference would bring people from other countries and there would be a healthy mix, but not so. At some point someone asked if there were any Japanese in the crowd and no one stood up, so yeah, mostly Korean.

The Videos: The videos highlighted what UBF is doing throughout the world. They threw a lot of numbers at you, and it seemed that the church is doing pretty well. I know pretty well Latin America, and I was surprised of some facts that they gave, because I felt that they were completely false.

The testimonies: I was very disappointed by them, they felt really scripted along with horrible unnatural hand gestures. They went like this: First, a joke, second describe just a little bit about your troubles before UBF, then describe how you changed and how your church is growing. I’ve heard really spirited testimonies before, but these were monotonous, and when I hear monotony, I start to daydream. The most powerful testimony and the one that touched my heart was from somebody that was not part of UBF and it was not in their format.

The Bible studies: These are the ones that I enjoyed the most, even though it was with the same people of my chapter. We studied John 14th and 15th (not in depth, just with emphasis on ‘I’m the way’ and ‘Remain in me’). I hadn’t read John in a long time and was inspired by all the things that Jesus said. I was disappointed we didn’t study it in depth because these are really powerful chapters.

My interaction with strangers: My friend wanted to meet new people, he virtually met none, even though he tried hard. The few people we talked to, would sit with you and eagerly share their life testimony in the first few minutes they met you. People would cite Bible verses left and right, but when someone would ask a kind of tough question, they really struggled to answer it and eventually go off topic. I noticed most people looked kinda quiet and introverted.

The past few days I’ve got some time to reflect about my sins and how I need to reach the torch that Christ, our Lord, is passing to me. I decided to do more research about UBF to see if it is okay to grow in the church, but I’ve read some horrible testimonies that have made me feel appalled. I’ve come to realize the different stages of training some people in my chapter are going through and it makes me sick in the stomach. I’ve grown spiritually while at UBF, and I am glad that God made me cross their path because there are so many good things about it. I can see many people benefiting a lot in their early stages of their training. But I need to grow correctly in order to bear fruit and hopefully one day pass his torch with the true conviction that is his torch.