I think that for the most part I could still stand by what I wrote in 2007. At that time I wrote in defense of UBF, Lee and marriage by faith. But today, though still a UBFer, I want to write with less defensiveness and with more balance, honesty and transparency.

What has changed in me is the first hand experience of some leaders who use their position of authority to dictate what you do with your life in UBF. They might regard it as their God given right to do so, which it very well may be. I call it “playing God,” weakening trust, and breaking relationships.

Also, I am hearing more and more exUBFers who have clearly been wounded by UBF’s authoritarian system of “shepherd abuse” that almost uniformly happens throughout the UBF world in varying degrees to this day.

This website has been around for only 3.5 years, and in that span of time, we’ve all changed a lot. We’ve all learned at a very fast rate. In the last 5 years, I’ve grown and changed far more than I had in the previous 20.

Moral of the story: If you are in ubf and you want to grow exponentially fast, start thinking outside the ubf box. STart interacting with and listening to people who are different from you. But if you don’t care whether you grow — if you are content to remain pretty much the same as you are now for the rest of your life — keep doing what you have been doing.