Logic goes a very long way when talking to religious people in general. Specifically, for UBFers, I would say that it is important to also equip yourself with facts about the history of the ministry. Presenting these helps to move a conversation along much further than it would normally go.
]]>1) If a UBFer knows you are not attending a conference, their spontaneous first response is invariably shock, surprise and anger that is often well controlled. This response expresses incredulity that you are not attending the conference, which to them is an absolute, mandatory requirement which should never ever be questioned. To them not attending a conference is unheard of and totally unacceptable. Thus, the shock, surprise and anger.
2) After the initial shock and surprise is usually an imperative statement: You must attend the conference. It is interesting that the initial response is not why you are not attending, but simply a command that you should attend. To them “why” should not even need to be asked.
3) When they realize it is still No, they may say something like, “Pray about going. Your attendance is very important.” It is important because you are a leader. Or your must be a good influence as a leader by attending the conference. Or because you are a missionary you must show yourself to be a missionary by going. Or as Forests says, “if you have faith you will attend.” Some will also attempt to pay for your conference registration fee. (God bless their generosity!)
4) Throughout the discussion, the question, “why are you not going” hardly ever arises. It seems that some leaders are not interested in listening to why people do not want to go. They seem to primarily use their position of authority to command you to come with varying degrees of guilt-tripping (God blessed you so much, you must attend to pray and to bless others), and pride arousal (You must show yourself to be a leader and show the example to others by attending).
Such responses demonstrate a lack of understanding of justification that is by faith and by God’s grace, and not by works, and certainly not by attending the conference to prove oneself or for any other anthropocentric reason.
]]>This is sometimes tricky because the converse is true if the statement is an if and only if statement. If (and only if) you believe in your heart and profess with you mouth that Jesus is Lord are you saved. In general conversation nearly everytime we use “if…then” we mean “if and only if…then” so it’s a common problem in math classes.
]]>That’s why I think that if one does not genuinely and humbly seek outside input and feedback, we become stuck in a rut with the same old, same old stuff repeated over and over again, while the mind becomes more and more numb. The easiest thing to become is an old wineskins. This happens everywhere, not just in churches.
]]>