Yes, it was the most painful decision I’ve ever made. It is not easy to admit when you are wrong, especially about something you love and devoted 24 years of your life to. Yet I would make the same decision a thousand times if necessary.

It’s as if they have a new scripture based on UBF. Apparently, the focus of UBF is not on living with a relationship with God, but doing acts of UBF.

Also, the arrogance and judgmental attitude of most UBF leaders is repulsive. They say that the hierarchy nature of UBF stems from Korean culture. That means that this aspect of Korean culture should be changed, no? I think an abusive hierarchy format shouldn’t exist for Christians. No person should “be in a higher position” than another.

Jesus was humble and did not exert his dominance. He preached about being honest, non-judgmental, loving others as if they were yourself, having faith, being authentic, being child-like, etc. Sadly, I have not seen these characteristics from many so-called leaders in UBF.

Brian, I think you made a great decision to leave. I assume it was difficult after so many years of investing your life in UBF, but you probably learned and grew so much from this experience. I’m very happy for you that you found a new supportive community.

1 Kings 12:6-11 “6 Then King Rehoboam consulted the elders who had served his father Solomon during his lifetime. “How would you advise me to answer these people?” he asked. 7 They replied, “If today you will be a servant to these people and serve them and give them a favorable answer, they will always be your servants.” 8 But Rehoboam rejected the advice the elders gave him and consulted the young men who had grown up with him and were serving him. 9 He asked them, “What is your advice? How should we answer these people who say to me, ‘Lighten the yoke your father put on us’?” 10 The young men who had grown up with him replied, “Tell these people who have said to you, ‘Your father put a heavy yoke on us, but make our yoke lighter’–tell them, ‘My little finger is thicker than my father’s waist. 11 My father laid on you a heavy yoke; I will make it even heavier. My father scourged you with whips; I will scourge you with scorpions.'”