When I entered UBF, I was dating a girl. She also came to attend the UBF services. She was with me in two Sunday meetings, but I did not let anyone know that she was my girlfriend. I already wanted to end the relationship with her before entering UBF, when I saw that it would be difficult to keep dating. So I wanted to end the relationship. After a few months, I reported my relationship in a testimony during a 1-1 Bible study. I also told some UBF people about my relationship with the girl. When I told my Bible teacher, he asked me, with an attitude of reproof:
You want a dating or you want to serve God ??
For him, you either obey the rules of UBF or you are disobeying God. In the limited minds of the people of UBF, you cannot have a loving relationship and also be a servant of God. Worse, in their minds, you cannot be guided by the Holy Spirit to find the love of your life. When you get married in the UBF “marriage by faith” model you are not exercising your faith. You are just blindly obeying the instructions given by men trying to steal the role of the Holy Spirit.