“The Winnipeg Sun”
Vol. 10, No.90
Tuesday, April 17, 1990
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“Cult personality draws people to Fellowship”
Ex-Cult Member Still Feels Fear
by Wendy Stephenson
Sun Staff Writer
She doesn’t make the phone call herself. She’s scared. Someone else phones the newsroom. Please don’t print Theresa’s story – she’s changed her mind, he says.
The story – told over 4 1/2 hours one day in late June – is one of human tragedy – a young woman who sought a closer relationship with God, but instead found herself abused and berated by so-called Christians.
She became mixed up with the University Bible Fellowship, a cult that’s been kicked off university and college campuses in Canada and the United States
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Leader abused woman’s trust
It was the last straw for a then 22 year old Bible study student, who realized the missionary position could take on a new meaning.
She blushes even yet as she recalls how the man she looked to as her spiritual leader abused her trust. She had agreed to go with him to recruit University of Manitoba students to join their Bible study group, but they ended up together on his bed. She never questioned him – she went willingly.
More than two years later – freed of his influence – she’s gone to the police , asking them to investigate the man and the organization. “I want to do whatever it takes so people don’t get involved with this group”, she says. “I’d like to see it ended. I’d like to see them out of the city. People don’t take it seriously, but the impact it has isn’t as miniscule as they think.”
In a lengthy interview with two city police officers, she told them about the ministry and how control over her own life had been taken away – how she was led to believe in the ultimate authority of a man who betrayed it.
“The police wanted to know everything from the beginning to the end. Their main concern was …I never resisted. From a legal point of view, it’s hard to fight.”
A police spokesman says no charges have been laid nor are any contemplated at this time. But for her that’s immaterial. She’s achieved her goal. “if someone else comes forward (with a complaint), it won’t be the first.”
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Theresa discovered the truth too late, but she wanted to warn others. It was then the threats began. Word leaked out she’d spoken to the media. They convinced her to fly to Chicago, headquarters for the fellowship, led by Korean missionary Samuel Lee and American Sarah Berry.
“Won’t accept no”
There, she was told they’d take legal action against her if she dared speak out. It was enough to instill the fear of God.
But last fall, the second year student at Red River Community College knew she could no longer keep her silence after she spotted three Korean missionaries on campus. It could happen all over again – and there could be more victims.
“They have to be stopped. If I hadn’t been strong enough, I might have always lived in doubt about who I am,” Theresa says, adding she was only 20 when she got involved in 1986. A full two years later, she left.
“They’re pushy when they approach you. They won’t accept no” she says. “They make promises – God can help you with your school studies. They tell you they like you. They phone you all the time. They feed you. They come pick you up. They smother you.” For her the timing couldn’t have been better, Theresa says.
Recruiting on campuses
She’d grown up in a family where prayer was important and was looking for a Bible study group. It seemed like fate a girl in her class asked if she’d like to join her group. From then on, it was up every morning at 5 a.m. for prayers and after school for Bible Study.
“There’s no free time.” By the end of the school term, she was exhausted, she says, adding if they didn’t study the Bible in the evening, they were sent to the university campuses to recruit.
“I had trouble staying awake. My instructor pulled me aside and asked if I had a medical problem because I was so exhausted. I was on the verge of failing. But I trusted the missionaries, who said every time you give time to God, He’ll give it back to you in double, so don’t worry about little sleep and the amount of time spent studying the Bible.”
“Bad Influence”
That summer, she moved in with two Korean missionaries and another woman involved with the Winnipeg group of about 20 missionaires and 15 students.
“They said where I was living was not the best environment -that my friends were a bad influence because they were questioning and challenging me. My friends were saying be careful. When I first moved in, I had been dating a guy for two years. They said I had to end it.” All marraiges are arranged.
“They kept making insinuations about my marraige. I didn’t trust (them) to choose my marraige partner.” At first, everyone was “all lovey”, but then they started casting aspersions on her, she says. She became confused.
“You’re always exposing yourself…all your secrets…even your worst thoughts you’d never thought you’d share. Instead of being helped, you’re judged. I was made to feel the problem was with me, yet I couldn’t fully believe that.”
She was told if she didn’t change her ways, she’d not be welcome at the centre- initially located at Sherbrook Street and later moved to 3 Emory Avenue.
“Scared”
The accusations increased – she was a troublemaker, she liked to argue too much. Finally, she was kicked out.
“I was really scared at that point I’d never be allowed back. To me, that was just the end of the world. I wanted to be a missionary so badly. I really valued that lifestyle – I thought it was so pure and precious. I thought of all the times I used to hurt and didn’t know where to go in life. I wanted to help others who were hurting to find answers.”
Left with nobody to talk to and nothing to do because the centre had become her life, she took on three jobs. She was relieved several months later to learn she could come back.
Mind Games
But she didn’t last. The mind games and intimidation – sexual harrassment – became too much, Theresa says. Although she’s put the the fellowship behind, the experience is still with her.
“I had nightmares. I’d wake up in sweats. I hated sleeping at night, remembering the things that happened.” Even now, a year later, she struggles for a sense of control.
“It’s a real fear – someone taking control of my life. I won’t let them.”
I have great respect for Theresa’s courage.
Sad to say, UBF has not changed. I resonate with her writing ‘Instead of being helped, you’re judged. I was made to feel the problem was with me, yet I couldn’t fully believe that.’ even today.
I did not agree with UBF which my son associates with. The consequence: my son wants to have nothing to do with me. A UBF leader from another chapter who was once my friend questined why does your son cut tie with you and not his father. (She did not know the father was alienated until we confronted the chapter UBF.) According to her, I was the problem to justify cutting family tie. But in her haste to judge me and defend UBF, it seems she did not understand it is God’s will to restore and reconcile relationships, not cutting ties.
I agree with you TC. In fact the bible talks about reconciliation.
19 For God was pleased to have all his fullness dwell in him, 20 and through him to reconcile to himself all things, whether things on earth or things in heaven, by making peace through his blood, shed on the cross.
21 Once you were alienated from God and were enemies in your minds because of[g] your evil behavior. 22 But now he has reconciled you by Christ’s physical body through death to present you holy in his sight, without blemish and free from accusation— 23 if you continue in your faith, established and firm, and do not move from the hope held out in the gospel. This is the gospel that you heard and that has been proclaimed to every creature under heaven, and of which I, Paul, have become a servant. Colossians 1:19-23 NIV version
TC, this is an excellent statement: “it is God’s will to restore and reconcile relationships, not cutting ties.”
Yes! This is a RED FLAG about UBFism. They talk a lot about God’s will, when what they really mean is UBF’s will– the will of the shepherd and/or chapter director.
God is about goodness, and cutting ties with your friends and family, calling them “bad company”, is horrendously bad.
ubf shpeherds use “God’s will” as a control mechanism in at least two ways:
1. “God’s will” is bound to “live by faith”. To live “by faith” is a widely used epithet the portent of which is this – a UBF member is expected to accept the teaching of and follow the direction of those who are higher in spiritual order, no matter how ridiculous, improper, bizarre, abusive, or un-Christian these teachings and directions are. UBF leaders intentionally put their underlings in outrageous situations, or make bizarre demands of them, and tell them that they must put up with it “by faith.” If they go along, they are praised. The way the phrase is used, UBF members get the idea that if they deviate from their leaders’ desires, they are not having faith in God. Thus, the leaders’ will is seen as God’s will and blindly following the leader is seen as having faith in God.”
2. “God’s will is bound to “falling away”. “When a member leaves UBF for any reason, he or she is said to have “fallen away”. The implication is that they have abandoned God’s will and perhaps even jeopardized their salvation.”
The above two thoughts are excerpted from our growing former member wiki section entitled “Glossary of UBF Terminology” http://wiki.ubfriends.net/index.php?title=Glossary_of_UBF_Terminology
The Theresa mentioned in this article and the previous one was the rape victim of her former UBF bible teacher.
It’s true that there are wolves in sheep’s clothing, but there is also wolves in shepherds clothing as well.
UBF chapter directors and UBF loyalist have what is called false humility. The bible explains what that is:
18 Do not let anyone who delights in false humility and the worship of angels disqualify you.
20 Since you died with Christ to the elemental spiritual forces of this world, why, as though you still belonged to the world, do you submit to its rules: 21 “Do not handle! Do not taste! Do not touch!”? 22 These rules, which have to do with things that are all destined to perish with use, are based on merely human commands and teachings. 23 Such regulations indeed have an appearance of wisdom, with their self-imposed worship, their false humility and their harsh treatment of the body, but they lack any value in restraining sensual indulgence. Colossians 2:18, 20-23 NIV version