Did you know that God ordained divorce as surely as he ordained marriage in the books of Moses? Jesus referenced Moses when he discussed divorce. If one spouse fears the other may leave it keeps them in check and requires both spouses to submit to each other to the degree necessary to maintain a healthy relationship but not to submit to the point they are so miserable they would rather leave. With a divorce for a valid reason the spouse may find themselves better off than if they stayed married. Divorce is an act of unfaithfulness except for numerous valid reasons listed in scripture
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Married couples too busy fishing to multiply
At my chapter less than 1 new disciple per year that stayed in UBF has been produced per married couple on average. On the other hand a human female is capable of producing almost one child per year from 18 to 30. Fishing can not be justified as a substitute for multiplying if UBF is truly serious about maximizing the number of disciples produced. Discipleship ministry is a farce.
How to leave UBF for good– UBF Married Couples
“Marriage by faith, as practiced in UBFism, is to be avoided at all costs. It is a vile manipulative control tactic from hell.“– Wikigoat
This quote is very good advice. However you must be wondering: What about those who are already in an arranged marriage in UBF? What can they do to leave? These are very important questions that will be answered in this article. But before that there is something else that needs to be addressed.
Five Things That Helped My Journey out of UBF
**was originally submitted on UBF: Ur Being Flat on 9/30/16**
Leaving an organization like UBF is often a messy, complicated process. The level of emotional and spiritual manipulation that one has experienced by the time they are compelled to leave can lead to stress, anxiety, fear and confusion. Cult dogma that has been grafted in and emotionally hardened over the course of years is not easily tossed aside, and it is not simple to sort out the truth from the twisting. Am I really leaving God’s will? Does this mean that I’ve compromised in my faith? But what about all the good things that have happened in the ministry?
Therefore, when the time comes that the Spirit prompts one to leave an unhealthy church, it is the start of a long, bumpy process. Here are some things that helped me along the way.
Discern. Defend. Deliver.
“I am not going to join your Bible cult!” The words sting. My heart races. I smile weakly and walk away. That was my last encounter while fishing on campus for someone to be part of the kingdom of priests and holy nation. What is fishing, you may be asking? What is a kingdom of priests? Good questions. Fishing is the insider language we used at a Korean campus organization called University Bible Fellowship (UBF). Fishing is the group’s interpretation of what Jesus meant when He told His followers they would become “fishers of men” (see Matthew 4:19). The idea was to go fishing on campus. It meant a weekly or daily excursion walking around a college campus and inviting students to Bible study. We had the holiest of intentions in doing this. The fact that I need to translate what I used to do on campus speaks volumes as to why I wrote this book. My hope is that current members will be reading this, and so I begin with some thoughts for them to consider.
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Are marriage meetings a good idea?
Recently I read an article recommending weekly marriage meetings:
Holding a weekly 30-minute meeting with your spouse that’s broken into four parts: Appreciation (expressing gratitude to your spouse), Chores (making sure to-dos are getting done), Plan for Good Times (scheduling date nights, as well as individual and family activities), and Problems/Challenges (addressing conflicts/issues/changes in the relationship and in life in general).
I thought that might be a good idea, because, as the article continues to explain:
The structure of the marriage meeting is designed to rekindle your romance, solidify your friendship, nip potential conflicts in the bud, and help you smoothly run your household economy. If you’ve already got a great marriage, then marriage meetings will enhance it. If your marriage has been struggling, the meetings can help you get your relationship back on track.
Perspective Matters
Recently the building at my workplace had Leon Keer paint one of his famous floor paintings in the lobby. This artwork is simply amazing! I noticed when walking through the lobby that the place I stand makes a huge difference in what I see. The painting looked horrible from the side. How can this be art? But when I stood in the “stand here” spot, my mind was blown! I think it is the same with the Bible. When we do not have the correct perspective, the world around us looks odd. Perspective is why ten people can look at the same text or the same object or the same theological concept, and produce ten different conclusions.