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Christian Leaders Can Be Told They Are Wrong– Follow Up article

Before proceeding check out Ben Toh’s article first http://ubfriends.net/christians-leaders-can-be-told-they-are-wrong/

In this article we’ll take a look at former UBF chapter director Peter Chang’s letter to UBF director Chang Woo Lee in which he not only told Lee that he was wrong but also showed him how he was wrong.

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Move on with your life – don’t blame the Church

This is the typical advice you get from a cult that does not want to change.

Leah Remini, one of my favorite actors – though I actually only know her from “King of Queens” – got the same advice when she started to speak out about her experience and tried to warn and help others:

Dropouts are pushed to move on so that the cult can also move on undisturbed, exploiting the next generation of victims.

Luckily, there are always a few who don’t just move on, but also care about revealing the truth to the public.

It’s difficult. You will lose your former “friends” in the cult, and even worse, you may lose family members still stuck in the cult. People outside the cult will not understand what you’ve gone through and why you stayed in that toxic environment for so long, they may think you’re crazy. But leaving the cult is the best thing you can do, and telling others about your experience is even better.

Thank you, Leah.

(See also: Leah Remini: Scientology and the Aftermath)

Parenting – you’re doing it wrong!

Recently I read an article titled “A Manifesto Against ‘Parenting’.” It starts by claiming:

“The idea that parents can learn special techniques that will make their children turn out better is ubiquitous in middle-class America—so ubiquitous that it might seem obvious. But this prescriptive picture is fundamentally misguided. It’s the wrong way to understand how parents and children actually think and act, and it’s equally wrong as a vision of how they should think and act.”

The article goes on to explain how we should just be parents and think about what being good parents mean, instead of trying to transform our children into what we believe they should look like in that process called “parenting”.

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Four Ways to Identify Your Personality

4personality-typesYou’re just anti-UBF” (or “pro-UBF”). Or “You’re just a conservative Republican.” Or “You’re just a liberal Democrat.” Or “You’re just stubborn, selfish, self-centered, self-obsessed and stupid!”

No one likes to be categorized or caricatured. Yet, people do have preferences, particular traits, personalities, biases and giftings. Also, almost everyone has some (highly annoying) idiosyncrasy! UBF likes people who are loyal, committed and who do not question or disagree with or challenge their leader(s). Because of this UBF also does not like people with opposite traits. Here are some traits UBF leaders do not like. People are indeed different. So it would be beneficial to understand our differences.Read More