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  • "Forgiving Myself" by Joshua by: Ben Toh (5)

    February 15, 2013, 16:21

    Joshua’s recent comment moved me to tears. His words, phrases, comments and articulation strike at the core and at the root of the matter regarding “shepher…

  • "May God Make America a Kingdom of Priests and a Holy Nation!" by: anonymous (86)

    January 19, 2011, 08:00

    I have been thinking lately about a question that has plagued me since I first came to UBF in 1999: What does the prayer "May God make America a Kingdom of…

  • (I am) A Light to the Gentiles by: HonestRhee (26)

    September 22, 2015, 09:07

    “We all like sheep have gone astray…” – Isaiah 53:6 Dear spiritual children, It seems as though the words in my last testimony made you react…

  • 10 Traits of Creative People by: Ben Toh (3)

    March 22, 2014, 19:34

    When I saw this list on Facebook, I was surprised that it described me, though I never thought of myself as creative. Then I chucked to myself, thinking that…

  • 12 Random Reflections for the New Year by: Ben Toh (18)

    January 1, 2013, 10:35

    12 random reflections that I will likely forget during the year 2013: Reflect daily on the whole counsel/will/plan/purpose of God (Acts 20:27). Give my…

  • 12 Things UBF Taught Me (1) by: BrianK (20)

    July 8, 2013, 19:01

    "Go back to the bible" - The first and most obvious thing ubf taught me was to read the bible. I wasn't taught to study the bible as in seminary school. It was…

  • 12 Things UBF Taught Me (2) by: BrianK (11)

    July 11, 2013, 21:55

    "Do world mission" - The second point in the ubf heritage is World Mission. I learned that World Mission is something you do. The idea is that people in the…

  • 12 Things UBF Taught Me (3) by: BrianK (17)

    July 13, 2013, 07:50

    "Campus Evangelism" - The third point in the ubf heritage is about college campus ministry. I normally combined "World Mission" and "Campus Evangelism" in to…

  • 12 Things UBF Taught Me (4) by: BrianK (12)

    July 14, 2013, 10:01

    "Manger spirit" - The manger is perhaps the most recognizable Christian symbol, next to the cross. ubf taught me "manger spirit" and gave a whole new meaning…

  • 12 Things UBF Taught Me (5) by: BrianK (5)

    July 22, 2013, 11:38

    "A spirit of giving" - This means to support youself. Be independent. Don't look to other people for help. Don't have a beggar mentality. Give, even when you…

  • 12 Things UBF Taught Me (6) by: BrianK (40)

    July 23, 2013, 15:01

    "Spiritual order" - This heritage point is one of the most vague, and perhaps the most misunderstood and misused. I was taught two meanings of this point, and…

  • 12 Things UBF Taught Me (7) by: BrianK (4)

    July 24, 2013, 14:28

    "Lay Missionaries" - This is also known as "tentmaker missionaries" or "self-supporting missionaries". The idea is that a missionary does not need to be…

  • 2 Corinthians - Section 1 by: BrianK (18)

    July 27, 2014, 09:10

    N.T. Wright's study guide is remarkably easy to understand and yet opens doors of deep thought. Section 1 is entitled "The God of all Comfort". Clearly the…

  • 2 Corinthians - Section 2 by: BrianK

    August 2, 2014, 08:19

    N.T. Wright’s study guide continues with the text of 2 Cornithians 2:5-3:18. This sectioning off of Scripture is teaching me a highly valuable lesson:…

  • 2 Corinthians - Suggestions from Wright by: BrianK (13)

    July 13, 2014, 09:44

    Bible study. Questions. These things surprisingly still invoke a mild fight-or-flight response in me. Can I trust the study guide? What ideology are these…

  • 2 Corinthians Study - Introduction by: BrianK (10)

    July 7, 2014, 14:24

    One of the freedoms I have been enjoying is the new-found freedom to work out my personal belief system as a bible learner. I started by believing only one…

  • 2014 Academy Award Predictions by: Ben Toh (3)

    January 17, 2014, 01:10

    This is for fun, since the 2014 Oscar nominations were announced today. But rest assured I am seriously engaged in the present discussions about The Shepherding…

  • A 2nd Gen Story by: anonymous (17)

    March 21, 2015, 08:37

    Everyone who does evil hates the light, and will not come into the light for fear that their deeds will be exposed. But whoever lives by the truth comes into…

  • A Biblical Response to the UBF Definition of Church by: Ian Turner (57)

    May 11, 2014, 06:56

    The new UBF history website created in 2013 attempts to define “church” on this page. After that, it tries to build a case, based on this definition, for…

  • A Case of Mistaken Identity by: gc (11)

    June 30, 2013, 10:59

    Recent memory for popular culture saw a resurgence of Hugo’s Les Misérables as the 2012 film after the musical caught everyone’s attention. Javert, a…

  • A Church in Denial and Infatuated with Itself by: Joe Schafer (33)

    July 6, 2011, 07:50

    I recently ran across a presentation by Gary Hamel, an author and management consultant who has been called “the world’s most influential business…

  • A Consistent Blog by: BrianK (6)

    December 20, 2014, 08:53

    Well another year has passed! 2014 was a great year for our little blogging community. Somehow Ben, Joe and I managed to not lose our minds (or did we?). Here…

  • A Culture of Burden by: Sigrid (26)

    June 10, 2015, 11:15

    "Answer to Brian's post June 3, 2015" Hello, Everybody, My name is Sigrid Goff. I used to belong to Cologne UBF in Germany, then to Washington UBF…

  • A Different Type of Shepherd by: forestsfailyou (3)

    September 28, 2015, 19:06

    Those who know me only know me a short while before I recommend Gk. Chesterton’s Orthodoxy. I am not sure I would not be a Christian today had I never found…

  • A Discussion Stuck in Limbo by: John Y and Gerardo R (86)

    October 19, 2010, 09:14

    Dear Reader: The following is a fictional conversation written to initiate discussion on an important topic concerning different traditions of the Christian…

  • A Gentler and Kinder UBFriends by: Ben Toh (32)

    October 27, 2014, 09:35

    Gentle and kind. This follows my earlier comment to state again my simple (and perhaps naive) contention that the greatest likelihood of effecting positive…

  • A Graphic Realization of Luke 22-24 by: Ben Toh

    April 16, 2014, 08:58

    I recommend The Third Day especially for those who like comics. This small book of 48 colorful pages contains the Bible text of Luke 22-24 (in the Holman…

  • A Guilt-free Easter in 2014 by: BrianK (12)

    April 20, 2014, 22:21

    It's been a while. But finally I experienced an Easter free of guilt, free of shame and free of exasperation. Such guilt-laden memories are fading fast from my…

  • A Happy UBF Chapter by: Ben Toh (16)

    October 21, 2013, 09:16

    12 UBF couples (10 from West Loop) renewed our marriage vows on Oct 12, 2013 after attending a series on marriage excellently led by Kevin and Julie Jesmer…

  • A Holy Nation is a Blessing to Others by: John H Armstrong (10)

    August 1, 2010, 00:15

    Editor's note: Dr. John H. Armstrong is the founder and president of the ministry known as ACT3, an acronym for Advancing the Christian Tradition in the Third…

  • A Korean Critic by: BrianK (17)

    July 2, 2013, 12:46

    Critical thinking. Can a Korean do it? Could a Korean display the healthy attributes of a critic? After spending tens of thousands of hours with Koreans in ubf…

  • A Lenten Prayer by: Joe Schafer (13)

    February 13, 2013, 09:30

    Today is Ash Wednesday and the first day of Lent, the traditional forty-day period of preparation for Holy Week and Easter, a season for fasting and repentance.…

  • A Letter to Bibleman by: Joe Schafer (28)

    February 1, 2013, 12:08

    Not long ago, we received the following message from a curious reader. Dear Bibleman, I was wondering if someone can write an article on UBFriends…

  • A Letter to Cincinnati UBF by: big bear (97)

    November 17, 2013, 09:10

    Dear Cincinnati UBF and all in UBF: It has been over a year and slowly God has revealed to me the truth about UBF and it's practices. UBF is abusive…

  • A Midweek Question by: Joe Schafer (11)

    July 21, 2010, 09:30

    Here is a question that I have been thinking about: Is it possible for Christians to emphasize the Bible too much in their personal lives and ministries? I…

  • A Parody: Conversation NOT by: Ben Toh (19)

    April 2, 2012, 11:57

    I found MJ’s comment cute. Hopefully she does not mind me re-posting it. It is a parody of two people talking and disagreeing. I found this interesting…

  • A Prayer for Ash Wednesday by: Joe Schafer (1)

    March 4, 2014, 19:57

    Dear People of God: The first Christians observed with great devotion the days of our Lord's passion and resurrection, and it became for them the custom of…

  • A Question from Ray by: admin (11)

    February 20, 2011, 13:41

    Dear friends: Today a comment arrived from one of our readers. It was originally addressed to Joshua Yoon in response to this: http://www.ubfriends.org/2011/…

  • A Real Testimony by Ben Toh-1998 by: Ben Toh (10)

    August 5, 2012, 08:00

    I found an old diary I left in Manila, Philippines, at the UBF chapter where I am staying. In it, I wrote on Easter Sun, Apr 12, 1998 a testimony I had…

  • A Response to Joe's Open Letter by: anonymous (154)

    April 23, 2015, 17:21

    As one who has been participating in University Bible Fellowship for many years, I’d like to offer my thoughts on some of the points in Joe's recent open…

  • A Response to the Problem of Spiritual Abuse in the Church by: Ben Toh (23)

    February 5, 2015, 12:11

    A succinct definition of spiritual abuse. Yesterday, Joe share what he regarded as the best article on spiritual abuse that he has ever seen. I agree. Here it…

  • A Roadmap for Peace by: BrianK (9)

    July 20, 2012, 12:47

    Recently I finished reading the book "Once An Arafat Man" by Tass Saada. I found his true-life story to be immensely helpful, hopeful and inspiring. I would…

  • A short comment on brainwashing by: forestsfailyou (9)

    February 18, 2015, 11:02

    When I was 4 I asked my mother how I didn’t know I was living in a dream. She stood confused, contemplating the question herself. I don’t remember what…

  • A Story That Speaks to Life by: Ben Toh (8)

    August 30, 2012, 20:57

    Perhaps because I love cats, this story touched me at a deep level. In 1947, the pride of London zoo was a beautiful white polar bear. It’s mother was dead…

  • A Tribute to Nelson Mandela by: BrianK (6)

    December 6, 2013, 11:49

    Yesterday we lost a true visionary, leader and friend of humanity. Nelson Mandela was a man who spent much time in jail, and yet changed the world, especially…

  • A True Church Versus The True Church by: Joe Schafer (35)

    April 4, 2011, 09:49

    One the most significant trends in Christianity in the United States today is the proliferation of house churches. According to a recent Barna study, 10% of…

  • A Wonderful UBF Conference, But... by: anonymous (19)

    August 14, 2013, 00:11

    Overall it was a wonderful conference. I went there eager to hear systematic and textual messages. I came to hear upfront calls to be missionaries. Jesus’…

  • A “Tough” Question: What about the God of Deuteronomy 13? by: Ben Toh (12)

    December 22, 2011, 10:50

    As suggested by Ray and seconded by David Bychkov and Oscar, let’s give this question a try without an article. A good friend emailed me this question…

  • Abraham Lincoln's Thanksgiving Proclamation by: Ben Toh (4)

    November 21, 2012, 14:19

    This is the (abridged) Proclamation of Thanksgiving by Abraham Lincoln on Oct 3, 1863: “The year that is drawing towards its close, has been filled with…

  • Abuse, Part II: Spiritual Bullying by: Ben Toh (72)

    March 29, 2012, 10:22

    In Part I, Spiritual Abuse: Shape Up or Ship Out, I addressed the spiritual abuse of authoritarianism. In this post, I am confessing my sin of authoritarianism…

  • Admin Note: Like Buttons! by: BrianK (12)

    July 20, 2013, 11:18

    Ok so I played around with various "like" and "dislike" buttons, per some requests. This has come up from time to time, so I found a rather flexible solution.…

  • Admin: Technology update by: BrianK (11)

    June 7, 2014, 20:17

    Hey everyone, our website was down this evening for a while, 6/7/2014. I contacted our web host and found out there was a performance issue with the server we…

  • Affirming and Non-Affirming by: Ben Toh (37)

    July 17, 2015, 12:44

    (The picture may be the response of some on "both sides" to "the other side.") What I will no longer say. Probably until a few years ago, I would have…

  • All Hallows Eve by: Darren Gruett (10)

    October 31, 2011, 06:48

    With Halloween upon us, Christians everywhere are faced with the choice about whether or not to partake in this annual holiday. Some will choose not to do…

  • Amazon.com and the Gospel by: Ben Toh (9)

    December 2, 2013, 11:37

    Jeff Bezos founded Amazon.com in 1994. In two decades he has amassed a net worth of 28 billion. Watch his fascinating interview on 60 minutes yesterday…

  • American Evangelicalism: A Decadent Culture? by: Joe Schafer (45)

    February 3, 2014, 16:33

    When you hear the phrase "decadent culture," what characteristics come to mind? Eroding morals? Licentiousness and fornication? Gluttony and drunkenness?…

  • American Sniper Makes you Proud To Be an American by: Ben Toh (23)

    January 28, 2015, 14:54

    I felt proud to be an American after watching American Sniper, directed by Clint Eastwood. It is based on the story of Chris Kyle, an American hero who is…

  • An Imaginary Report by Joe-2005 by: Joe Schafer (62)

    July 16, 2012, 15:34

    No one can approach the Bible without bias. Our understanding of Scripture is shaped by our culture and traditions, personality, history, relationships and…

  • An Introduction to Lessons from Travis by: forestsfailyou (7)

    October 3, 2014, 08:21

    One of the problems that comes with teaching is knowing what was previously taught to your students. If you assume they know too much then you will expect too…

  • An Open Letter to the President of UBF by: Joe Schafer (136)

    March 2, 2015, 16:38

    The following is an open letter to Dr. Augustine Sohn, President of University Bible Fellowship, from Joseph L. Schafer, dated March 2, 2015. Dear…

  • An Unedited Message by: forestsfailyou

    January 25, 2015, 21:07

    This is the message I prepared in the Philippines. I was asked on a Saturday around 2pm. I typed it on a phone. I was allowed to pick anything, and I picked 2…

  • And as I slept, I dreamed a dream... by: Joe Schafer (18)

    February 24, 2015, 23:07

    Admin note: This is a short story titled The Pilgrims. It was contributed by Ryan Prins, a former student at Penn State, and originally published in 2009. We…

  • Announcement: Skype Talks by: BrianK (14)

    September 21, 2013, 16:04

    I expect and hope the UBF conversations here will continue (I know they will as long as Ben is publishing :).  Although I will continue to comment from time…

  • Another John 10 Testimony by: forestsfailyou (14)

    April 13, 2015, 12:47

    Recently someone shared a quote with me "You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them they…

  • Answers from Lumen Fidei by: forestsfailyou (5)

    June 30, 2014, 14:48

    I recently came across a document called the Lumen Fidei. It was more than insightful. The Lumen Fidei (light of faith) is a letter of Pope Francis that was…

  • Are UBF Chapter Directors/Missionaries Accountable? by: Ben Toh (59)

    May 23, 2013, 12:41

    When deemed necessary, can they be questioned, challenged, corrected, or rebuked? In 2013, the current UBF General Director, changed parts of his New Year’s…

  • Are UBF Leaders Cult Leaders? by: Ben Toh (250)

    September 10, 2012, 05:40

    Question. Brian asked a legitimate question on a previous post Spiritual Bullying: "Does Mr. Ludy explain what many senior UBF leaders have been doing for 50…

  • Are UBF people and UBF churches humble? by: Ben Toh (15)

    June 5, 2015, 10:10

    Do you belong to a proud or a humble church? Are you a proud or a humble person? How can we really tell if we are proud or humble? We might excuse our pride,…

  • Are UBF Shepherds Unobtrusive? by: Ben Toh (53)

    October 12, 2012, 10:41

    What does “unobtrusive” mean? Last week when I was praying with a friend who is a UBF leader, I prayed for him to be unobtrusive. The word “unobtrusive”…

  • Are You A True Friend? by: Ben Toh (20)

    January 25, 2011, 09:48

    The Social Network has recently won the Golden Globes award for Best Picture Drama, and it might also win the Academy Award for Best Picture of 2010. This film…

  • Are you in a Christian ministry? by: BrianK (9)

    August 20, 2015, 08:49

    Before we publish MJ's excellent new article, I want to share a few mid-week thoughts. Ben's recent comment about being HOT (honest, open and transparent)…

  • Are You Mentally Strong? by: Ben Toh (6)

    December 19, 2013, 17:22

    I love lists. I love this list of Mentally Strong People: 13 Things They Avoid. It reminds me of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People--one of my…

  • Aren’t We Christians All Jonahs? by: Ben Toh (22)

    January 27, 2014, 19:26

    My Jonah moment. I am reviewing Prophet on the Run for Cross Focused Reviews. It is a short, thorough and excellent practical commentary on Jonah by Baruch…

  • Atonement Lessons From Losing My Dog And Cat by: Ben Toh (10)

    October 29, 2014, 10:11

    Last Sunday, I preached on Gospel Righteousness. My text, Rom 3:21-26, is regarded as "the center and heart of Romans,” "possibly the most important single…

  • Authority and Common Sense by: forestsfailyou (8)

    June 28, 2014, 08:59

    One unspoken rule I have noticed in traditional UBF chapters is there is this idea that life decisions and choices must be approved by a pastor or shepherd…

  • B is for Beauty by: Ben Toh (10)

    May 17, 2014, 12:59

    Please critique what I wrote for my sermon tomorrow: B is for Beauty. Thanks for the helpful comments last week on A is for Accountability. As a result I…

  • Back to School by: BrianK (7)

    September 1, 2015, 10:35

    Yesterday we sent off our second daughter to college. Wow, time flies so fast! My wife and I are so thankful there is no ubf chapter there :) To celebrate this…

  • Because God "Blessed" UBF, UBF is OK by: Ben Toh (33)

    May 21, 2013, 10:03

    Over the years I have heard this expressed by some UBF leaders: "Since God 'blessed' UBF, then UBF must be OK. For if God was not pleased with UBF, God would…

  • Behold the Lamb! by: Joe Schafer (11)

    April 22, 2011, 09:20

    The death of Jesus is intimately connected with the Jewish feast of Passover. The Seder, the traditional meal eaten by Jews at sundown on the first day of…

  • Being Friends With Non-Christians by: Ben Toh (11)

    October 25, 2013, 09:20

    I have been in UBF my entire Christian life since I became a Christian in 1980. A seminal moment occurred about 10 years ago when Dr. John Armstrong preached a…

  • Believing Grace, Practicing Law by: Ben Toh (11)

    November 19, 2012, 09:38

    Saved by Grace; Function by Law. I know that I am saved by Grace (Eph 2:8-9), but somehow I functionally and practically operate as if I am saved by keeping…

  • Ben-2012 to Ben Toh-1998 by: Ben Toh (13)

    August 19, 2012, 22:53

    A friend described me as “scientific and analytical.” I accepted her assessment. I realize (from my wife) that it is a pain to be scientifically and…

  • Beware of the Tiger Mom by: Joe Schafer (16)

    January 26, 2011, 10:54

    For the last few weeks, the internet has been abuzz with talk of the Tiger Mom. Amy Chua, a professor at Yale University and mother of two daughters, ignited…

  • Bible Study: Is More Always Better? by: Joe Schafer (60)

    February 26, 2013, 18:41

    In the weeks before Samuel Lee unexpectedly passed away, the advice that he gave was, "Go back to the Bible." That saying, “Go back to the Bible,” fe…

  • Blogging My Books by: BrianK (3)

    May 31, 2014, 13:04

    As someone suggested, I decided to blog some of the content of my two books online. Each book is about 100 pages, so I decided to just blog important sections…

  • Book Review - I Choose: Subtlety in Cults by: big bear (18)

    May 16, 2014, 08:54

    When I heard about the new book by Isabelle Renaud, "I Choose: Subtlety in Cults", I bought one on Kindle for my phone. This is a great read if you want…

  • Book Review: Combating Cult Mind Control by: BrianK (10)

    October 8, 2015, 12:29

    In 1990, Steven Hassan courageously published the book, Combating Cult Mind Control: The #1 Best Selling Guide To Protection, Rescue, and Recovery from…

  • Book review: Eyes That See by: BrianK (13)

    February 6, 2014, 15:09

    As I continue on in the current ACT3 Network cohort class, I continue to be amazed at the beauty of God. One of the pivotal books for me has been James…

  • Book Review: Freedom of Mind by: BrianK (16)

    February 17, 2014, 12:59

    This week I finished reading Steve Hassan's latest book, published in 2012, entitled "Freedom of Mind: Helping Loved Ones Leave Controlling People, Cults, and…

  • Book Review: Fundamorphosis by: BrianK (3)

    May 22, 2014, 11:55

    How could he know? That question surfaced in my mind over and over again as I read Robb Ryerse's new book, Fundamorphosis. How could someone I never met, who…

  • Book Review: God and the Gay Christian by: BrianK (64)

    May 3, 2014, 10:18

    In 1992, Pope John Paul II apologized to Galileo. 359 years earlier, Galileo and those who listened to his teachings were condemned by the church. The church…

  • Book Review: Rest Unleashed by: forestsfailyou (21)

    May 5, 2014, 18:00

    I feel it necessary to explain my relationship with Mr. Brian Karcher and how I became a close friend of a man whom I've never met. My pastor frequently asks…

  • Book Review: The Year the World Ended by: forestsfailyou (40)

    February 27, 2014, 12:08

    I have never been too fond of book reviews; they tend to be written by people you have never met, and they frequently come accompanied with the author’s…

  • Book Review: Washed and Waiting by: BrianK (30)

    April 29, 2014, 20:56

    This discussion needs to be had. I have corresponded with homosexuals, atheists and those who are marginalized in numerous ways-- people in the UBF community.…

  • Book: Emotionally Healthy Spirituality by: James Kim (246)

    May 27, 2013, 08:04

      I would like to share with you about Peter Scazzero’s book, “Emotionally Healthy Spirituality”. Often times seemingly good Christians can have…

  • Brian Karcher is Bitter by: Joe Schafer (38)

    May 17, 2013, 10:56

    Why is Brian Karcher so bitter? How could Ben and Joe forget God's grace and start bashing UBF so shamelessly on a public website? Why can't Chris and Vitaly…

  • Bringing Reality to the Spiritual Life (Part 1) by: Joe Schafer (8)

    April 15, 2011, 09:29

    Francis Schaeffer (1912-1984) was one of the most influential Christian thinkers of the 20th century. In 1955, he founded the L'Abri Fellowship, a residential…

  • Bringing Reality to the Spiritual Life (Part 2) by: Joe Schafer (12)

    April 26, 2011, 09:47

    Francis Schaeffer wrote True Spirituality to address the sense of unreality that pervades the faith of modern Christians. Schaeffer was a philosopher, not a…

  • Call for papers - Winter 2015 by: BrianK (5)

    February 13, 2015, 11:03

    Hey everyone, what do you want to read and discuss here? Anyone have an idea for an article to submit? If not, then you will have to listen to Ben, Joe and…

  • Can being "right" be wrong? by: MJ Peace (6)

    October 8, 2015, 14:10

    "Many times being right is the same as being wrong." Acknowledgement that you do not monopolize the truth This blog is a response to Joe's excellent…

  • Can UBF Divide a Marriage? by: gc (18)

    September 11, 2015, 08:43

    Introduction: After a gradual, but long time struggle with leaving UBF I wanted to review an aspect not directly addressed by many people. As a single…

  • Captivated by: Ben Toh

    February 21, 2014, 00:53

    Look! Captivated: Beholding the Mystery of Jesus’ Death and Resurrection by Thabiti Anyabwile was a series of Easter sermons. Like the Bible that implores us…

  • Change is coming by: BrianK (2)

    February 26, 2014, 10:42

    Change. Some people fear it. Some embrace it. Change happens, whether we like it or not. Sometimes things around us change the way we want. Other times we have…

  • Changes or Just Illusions? by: David Bychkov (22)

    June 17, 2013, 06:28

    I want to suggest all UBFers to consider this piece from an article Control Mechanisms in the ICC and to answer the question: Are changes in UBF real or they…

  • Christ is Risen! by: admin (2)

    April 24, 2011, 07:19

    Christ is risen, Christ is living, dry your tears, be unafraid! Death and darkness could not hold him, nor the tomb in which he lay. Do not look among the…

  • Christian Life is More than Sin Management by: joshua (12)

    April 23, 2013, 11:42

    I entered UBF when I was seventeen years old. I had just finished a disastrous break-up with a high school girlfriend that had left me with overwhelming guilt…

  • Christianity is the End of Religion by: Ben Toh (139)

    December 12, 2011, 22:02

    Contrasting Religion and the Gospel has intrigued me the last few years. Here is an account from Tim Keller’s book King’s Cross: The Story of the World in…

  • Christians Behaving Badly Toward Their Own Family by: Ben Toh (28)

    March 21, 2014, 21:50

    Recently, I spoke to a childhood friend who expressed to me just how hurt and disheartened he, his parents and his siblings were after his brother married and…

  • Cognitive Dissonance, Jehovah's Witnesses and Me by: Joe Schafer (18)

    January 12, 2013, 08:46

    Recently, some interesting discussion began on this website about the concept from social psychology known as cognitive dissonance. The Merriam-Webster online…

  • Coming Home to Elfland by: Tuf (17)

    September 30, 2010, 11:10

    Some of us are turned off by the word magic and anything related to it. Our minds are drawn to witchcraft, games of poor repute in the Christian community such…

  • Commenting Has Been Fixed by: admin

    November 10, 2010, 09:54

    Dear Readers: Over the last few weeks, some of you have tried to leave comments and experienced difficulty. Without our realizing it, commenting privileges…

  • Committed to Absolute Truth by: Joe Schafer (14)

    October 28, 2010, 12:00

    According to recent estimates by the Barna group, three-fourths of American adults now believe that truth is not absolute, but changes relative to the…

  • Communicating Genesis 4:7 by: Ben Toh (6)

    December 28, 2011, 12:28

    I am a firm believer that grace is the bedrock and unshakable foundation of the Christian life (Acts 20:24). In the NT, the word "grace," a translation of…

  • Communication Confusion by: Ben Toh (58)

    October 3, 2013, 11:35

    How different is the East from the West in terms of communication? In my opinion, a significant problem in UBF is our suboptimal and often unhealthy way of…

  • Community (Life Together, Dietrich Bonhoeffer) by: Ben Toh (32)

    May 2, 2012, 22:03

    Reading Dietrich Bonhoeffer’s Life Together, Richard Foster’s review rings true: “Most books can be skimmed quickly; some deserve careful reading; a…

  • Competing Glories (in UBF) by: Ben Toh (8)

    October 31, 2012, 11:12

    7 competing glories. Do we think that we truly and purely live for the glory of God alone (1 Cor 10:31)? Because we are already “mature, seasoned”…

  • Confronting Error: Condemnation or Conversation? by: Vitaly (100)

    June 21, 2013, 13:06

      Luke 20:46-47 says “Beware of the scribes, which desire to walk in long robes, and love greetings in the markets, and the highest seats in the synagogues,…

  • Consider Both Sides When You Express Yourself by: Ben Toh (25)

    March 7, 2014, 19:05

    I asked a friend why some UBFers are upset with this post that I wrote: Sin is having an identity other than in God. He explained it to me so well in an…

  • Counterfeit Gods and the Bible by: Ben Toh (42)

    February 7, 2011, 06:48

    Like The Prodigal God (blogged by Henoch), Counterfeit Gods – another great book by Tim Keller — taught me to see and study the Bible in a new…

  • Critique My 6th Deuteronomy Sermon: One by: Ben Toh (4)

    February 13, 2014, 22:28

    Thanks so much Joe, Brian, Sharon, David, Chris, others for your liminal inducing comments on my sermons on Deuteronomy: Sin (chap. 1), Leadership (Dt 1:9-18),…

  • Critique My Deuteronomy Sermon by: Ben Toh (24)

    January 9, 2014, 19:22

    Please critique my sermon for this Sun (Jan 12, 2014) entitled Sin (Dt 1:1-46). Since I preach extemporaneously, I do not read my sermon but preach freely by…

  • Critique My Ephesians Sermon by: Joe Schafer (72)

    January 28, 2014, 22:19

    HE HIMSELF IS OUR PEACE Based on Ephesians 2:11-22 Paul’s letter to the Ephesians makes me feel like an ant. Here I am, walking around on the earth,…

  • Critique My Fifth Deuteronomy Sermon on Law by: Ben Toh (65)

    February 7, 2014, 08:45

    Your feedback on my first four sermons of Deuteronomy--Sin (Dt 4:1-46), Leadership (Dt 1:9-18), Faith (Dt 2:1-3:29), and Obedience (Dt 4:1-49)--compelled me…

  • Critique My Fourth Deuteronomy Sermon on… by: Ben Toh (52)

    February 1, 2014, 07:11

    ...OBEDIENCE, a dreaded cringe-worthy word! In the 2011 NIV, the word “obey” occurs 206 times, and “obedience” 38 times. Daniel Block (OT scholar who…

  • Critique my Leadership Practice and Sermon by: Ben Toh (63)

    January 17, 2014, 17:46

    This is a record third post in a day! After learning much from critiques of my sermon on Sin, here is my next sermon on Leadership (Dt 1:9-18) for this Sun. Do…

  • Critique My Matthew Sermon by: BrianK (16)

    January 31, 2014, 14:24

    Matthew 5:1-12 The Sermon on the Mount. The Magna Carta of Christianity. Matthew 5, 6 and 7. I call it the Sermon of Sermons, for a sermon is a declaration of…

  • Critique My Resurrection Sermon by: Ben Toh (3)

    April 21, 2014, 15:32

    This past weekend, Hyde Park, Waterloo and West Loop UBF gathered for a combined Easter retreat in Michigan. It was fresh, spirited and joyful. It was planned,…

  • Critique my Sermon on Accountability by: Ben Toh (26)

    May 10, 2014, 13:04

    Do  freely give me feedback on my sermon which I will preach extemporaneously tomorrow: A is for Accountability. The four parts of the sermon are: Why…

  • Critique My Sermon on Wrath by: Joe Schafer (119)

    February 4, 2014, 08:15

    GOD'S WRATH FLOWS FROM HIS LOVE (a sermon based loosely on Romans 1:18-32, delivered at Hyde Park on 9/22/13) The topic for today is wrath. More…

  • Critique My Sermon: Incarnational Spirituality by: David W (43)

    April 27, 2015, 15:23

    This sermon was delivered on April 26th, 2015 at West Loop UBF. Please feel free to rip it apart and tell me how it could have been better :) Introduction…

  • Critique My Third Deuteronomy Sermon on Faith by: Ben Toh (85)

    January 23, 2014, 20:00

    Getting insightful and irenic feedback for my first two sermons in Deuternonmy (on Sin and Leadership) has been so much fun for me. Thanks! I learned a lot and…

  • Daily Bible Reading Plan for 2012: Read Your Bible, Pray Every Day by: Ben Toh (19)

    December 30, 2011, 09:14

    When I feel that a patient I visit (I am a home visiting medical doctor in Chicago) will not be offended, I may say to them as I leave their home, “Read your…

  • Dangerous Idols and Treasures of Church Leaders by: Ben Toh (7)

    September 19, 2013, 12:26

    My wife is reading Paul Tripp’s book “Dangerous Calling” and she is “calling me out” as she reads through the book and as she sees my blind spots…

  • Daring To Be Truthful by: Joe Schafer (6)

    November 3, 2010, 13:05

    Bible-believing Christians maintain that there is absolute truth. We reject the popular idea that right and wrong may be tailored to suit individual preferences…

  • Darkness at New York UBF by: BrianK (67)

    February 17, 2015, 12:10

    When we received the "Utmost Respect" letter at ubfriends, a good discussion about making apologies followed. Joe asked a great question in this discussion,…

  • Defiance by: BrianK (20)

    July 4, 2015, 09:05

    Today is Independence Day here in the USA. It seems to be the most somber 4th of July I can remember. Quite a few people are exhausted from the culture war…

  • Deja Vu, Self-Loathing, Resolve by: Ben Toh (54)

    March 31, 2014, 23:31

    Déjà vu came over me when I saw this public post on Facebook by a UBF chapter director: “In 2013, I received a lot of grace from God in serving 1:1 and…

  • Diaspora Jews and the Potential of Multicultural Missionary Children by: Kathy Vucekovich (3)

    August 24, 2010, 10:34

    Over the summer, we have been studying Acts at Lincoln Park UBF. To support his upcoming messages, Pastor Mark asked me to make a slide show presentation on…

  • Did God already answer? by: BrianK (5)

    July 2, 2010, 09:39

    The other day I walked into the elevator at work and pushed the button for Floor 3. The doors began to close, but then immediately opened back up. So I pushed…

  • Distinguishing Marks of a Work of the Spirit (Part 1) by: David Bychkov (4)

    April 1, 2011, 08:38

    Dear friends, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world (1…

  • Distinguishing Marks of a Work of the Spirit (Part 2) by: David Bychkov (12)

    April 11, 2011, 09:04

    Continuing in the discussion of Distinguishing Marks of a Work of the Spirit of God by Jonathan Edwards, here are the five remaining "negative signs."…

  • Distinguishing Marks of a Work of the Spirit (Part 3) by: David Bychkov (2)

    June 12, 2011, 14:34

    In his prior two articles, Part 2 and Part 1, David began reviewing Jonathan Edwards' writing, "The Distinguishing Marks of a Work of the Spirit of God".…

  • Divisions In The Church, Part II by: Ben Toh (26)

    April 12, 2011, 09:31

    In my previous post, Why Do We Have Divisions?, I explained the apostle Paul's contention that divisions occured in the church at Corinth because of unbiblical…

  • Divisions in the Church, Part III by: Ben Toh (19)

    April 25, 2011, 08:29

    In my two previous posts, Why Do We Have Divisions? and Divisions in the Church, Part II, I discussed why and how divisions occur in the church. In this final…

  • Do (not) Read Ubfriends by: MJ Peace (33)

    November 13, 2014, 19:11

    If I had a nickel for every time someone told me not to read this site or talk to BrianK or Ben Toh, I’d probably be a dollar richer. Unfortunately, for the…

  • Do Dogs Go To Heaven? by: Gerardo R (37)

    September 12, 2010, 05:00

    A while back, I was in a long car ride with some UBF friends. As I lay back and try to make the best of the situation, I asked a younger friend of mine in a…

  • Do We Need a Counselor? by: BrianK (68)

    June 2, 2013, 08:51

    After leaving UBF ministry in 2011, one of the first things I noticed was that numerous former members (and some current members too) were going to see…

  • Do You Link Your Shepherding With Your Salvation? by: Ben Toh (2)

    October 23, 2012, 16:15

    What is the real source of your happiness? We Christians are rightfully so happy when someone accepts Christ through our shepherding and Bible teaching. I love…

  • Does UBF Apotheosize Her Leaders? by: Ben Toh (29)

    June 27, 2013, 17:57

    I love asking questions, especially highly provocative ones (with a difficult word)! “Apotheosize” means “to exalt, glorify, deify, elevate to the rank…

  • Don't be proud by: forestsfailyou (1)

    June 10, 2015, 13:36

    Dr. Ben Toh recently posted an article about pride. He asked some questions about pride and on his blog gave some questions to help someone determine what a…

  • Don't Forget God's Grace by: big bear (27)

    June 26, 2013, 12:22

    With the upcoming Summer Bible Conference fast approaching, the labor of many chapters is to bring home the message, "So Loved". The theme is to serve the…

  • Elijah Blew It (T4G 2012) by: Ben Toh (5)

    April 14, 2012, 17:28

    This week, my wife and I attended the T4G (Together for the Gospel) conference in Louisville, KY from Apr 10-12. 7,000+ attended with the majority age group…

  • Emotionally Healthy Spirituality, Part Two by: James Kim (49)

    July 15, 2013, 18:15

    I want to share with you the book report part two, Peter Scazzero's book. Here I concentrated two parts; first the symptoms of emotionally unhealthy spiritualit…

  • End The Endless Self-Pruning... by: Kevin Jesmer (8)

    August 11, 2015, 19:27

    ...And Instead Dwell In Christ. Admin note: Reading Kevin's testimony, I immediately resonated with what he shared below. I know that the Christian life…

  • Evangelism and the Gift of Missionary (Part 1) by: Joe Schafer (8)

    December 14, 2010, 12:29

    Last week, as I was returning from Australia, I began to read Acts of the Holy Spirit by C. Peter Wagner (2000). The author is a former professor of Church…

  • Evangelism and the Gift of Missionary (Part 2) by: Joe Schafer (31)

    December 17, 2010, 11:41

    In Acts of the Holy Spirit (2000), C. Peter Wagner offers an intriguing discussion of the conflict that arose in the Jerusalem church at the beginning of Acts…

  • Excerpts from the Penguin Narratives by: BrianK (13)

    February 27, 2015, 09:27

    At one point in my life, I thought I had Christianity all figured out. I felt the twinge of pride as I “kept the faith” while people around me seemed to…

  • Extemporaneous Preaching by: Ben Toh (55)

    September 30, 2013, 10:33

    Consider preaching extemporaneously. For 30 years I preached by reading from a typed manuscript, perhaps like the way most UBFers deliver their Sun messages.…

  • Feedback from 2011 and Direction for 2012 by: Ben Toh (35)

    December 19, 2011, 11:36

    Readers, thank you for making UBFriends a fun interactive Christian website. Jesus says that he came so that we may live life “to the full” (Jn 10:10),…

  • Feelings, Actions and Thoughts by: Ben Toh (40)

    April 26, 2014, 17:50

    Warning: This is a random, rambling, ruminating reflection! I’ll start with a painful and shameful confession. For the first two decades of my marriage, I…

  • Finding the Key to Real Transformation by: Joe Machuta (5)

    April 11, 2013, 09:14

    While the UBF conversations continue here, we would like to begin some new dialogues about Christianity in general. We have a few articles that have been…

  • Flying From New York by: BrianK (24)

    February 19, 2015, 09:20

    There was once a man flying from New York to Omaha. In the airport garage he was attacked by a gang. They took his laptop, his wallet and his cell phone, beat…

  • Focus on the Less Honored by: Ben Toh (24)

    October 31, 2013, 13:40

    When the church becomes ugly. I often read a short daily commentary by Henri Nouwen. I find him insightful and inclusive, refreshing and renewing. An excerpt…

  • FOLLOW ME Means Repent, Deny Yourself, Lose Your Life and Make Disciples by: Ben Toh (19)

    March 24, 2015, 00:57

    “What did Jesus really mean when He said, ‘Follow Me?’” This is the title of a small pamphlet by David Platt that a friend showed me. I eagerly read…

  • Forests Proposes A Toast by: forestsfailyou (8)

    June 18, 2014, 06:42

    Seeing as I was in such a rush to have dinner with Ben Toh, I failed to give a toast to my roommate and Ben West. I have chosen to present my toast a few days…

  • Forests Top 10 Movie Quotes by: forestsfailyou (4)

    September 4, 2014, 08:22

    The past few articles had various references to movies. I am a big can on top 10 lists. So in that aim I decided to give you my top 10 movie quotes. These…

  • Forgiveness: Loyalty, Love and Life by: gc (144)

    August 26, 2013, 22:52

    Recently I was inspired by the discussion about David’s lament and praise of Saul. I really appreciated Terry’s input to try to stimulate discussion. I…

  • Four Signs of Healthy Community by: Joe Schafer (45)

    October 5, 2015, 11:02

    Jean Vanier knows something about community. Born in 1928 as the son of a high-ranking official in the Canadian government, Vanier traveled the world and…

  • Francis Chan's Anointed Sermon by: Ben Toh (28)

    January 1, 2014, 15:06

    Francis Chan preached in Kansas City at the One Thing 2013 IHOP conference on Dec 30, 2013. A friend who attended sent me the link to Chan's sermon. I was…

  • Friendship by: Ben Toh (50)

    May 8, 2012, 08:34

    On Sun, May 6, Dr. John Armstrong gave a sermon on friendship at West Loop; here's the video link: Learning to be Friends with Jesus (Jn 15:9-17). His personal…

  • From Certainty to Uncertainty by: Ben Toh (15)

    September 10, 2014, 10:54

    For 34 years and counting of being in UBF, I’ve heard countless testimonies titled something like, “From a Samaritan Woman to a Mother of Prayer,” or…

  • Galatians Set Me Free From Legalism by: Ben Toh (266)

    May 1, 2014, 15:02

    Are you free from legalism? Reading and studying Galatians in 2009 set me free---28 years after becoming a Christian. This freedom and exhilarating liberation…

  • Galatians Set Me Free From Legalism - Part 2 by: forestsfailyou (32)

    May 30, 2014, 08:58

    As a follow up to an article I didn’t write I think it only apt to say that Galatians Set Me Free From Legalism was the best article I never wrote. That…

  • Generation: Found by: David W (12)

    May 20, 2014, 18:31

    What was the originally intended purpose of Ubfriends? The mission statement of the site says: Our purpose is to foster open interpersonal communication on…

  • GLBT Evangelism by: BrianK (26)

    May 14, 2012, 17:01

    Last week, President Obama revealed a somewhat surprising statement: "I've just concluded that for me personally it is important for me to go ahead and affirm…

  • Glimpses of the Gospel by: BrianK (7)

    November 10, 2014, 12:53

    Ok so my "indefinite time away" turned out to be not so long. It's been 10 days since I commented here, and 2 weeks since I posted an article. New world…

  • Go Ahead. Make My Day by: Ben Toh (12)

    November 23, 2012, 14:03

    Dirty Harry’s classic line “Go ahead. Make my day”  is one of the best Hollywood movie lines ever. Check out the super cool extended 4 min clip, or the…

  • God is Love by: big bear (34)

    January 13, 2014, 09:31

    Our newest book is coming out in a month, entitled "The Year the World Ended." It is a love story and a story of my life in UBF for 29 years as a Bible…

  • God, Not Man, As Shepherd by: Ben Toh (3)

    June 11, 2014, 11:59

    Lacking nothing. I read Ps 23:1 this morning, which resonated with me. God is my Shepherd. I felt deeply that I truly lacked nothing, which is nothing but…

  • Godly Sorrow - Part 1 by: BrianK (15)

    June 8, 2013, 06:36

    Recently I discovered a gem of Christian sermons. It is Spurgeon's sermon "Godly Sorrow and Sorrow". I am compelled to share this today as I am convinced this…

  • Godly Sorrow - Part 2 by: BrianK (2)

    June 16, 2013, 12:36

    "I am going to preach tonight about sorrow for sin. I hope it has not yet quite gone out of the world; I trust that sorrowful penitence does still exist,…

  • Godly Sorrow - Part 3 by: BrianK (25)

    June 19, 2013, 19:34

    Here is the conclusion of Spurgeon's sermon on godly sorrow that leads to repentance. "Lord, let me weep for nought but sin, And after none but thee; And then…

  • Going Silent for Lent by: Joe Schafer (4)

    March 4, 2014, 11:12

    Tomorrow is Ash Wednesday, which for Roman Catholic and Protestant churches marks the beginning of the season of Lent. (The Eastern Orthodox observance of Lent…

  • Good Leaders Delegate Without Control by: Ben Toh (18)

    March 25, 2013, 19:25

    A key to successful leadership is delegation. Last Sun in Manila, I preached on The Words Moses Spoke (Deut 1:1-46) in my gradual attempt to grasp “the…

  • Good Leaders Judge Fairly Without Partiality by: Ben Toh (3)

    March 28, 2013, 20:01

    Why able and capable young leader’s leave. In good leaders delegate without control, I explained why Moses was a wise and effective leader, while many…

  • Good Leaders Lead Without Lording Over Others by: Ben Toh (2)

    March 31, 2013, 18:34

    No growth = Deficiency of leadership. Good leadership is a major key to any healthy growing organization or church. If a church is not growing you can almost…

  • Good Teachers Make Themselves Unneeded by: Ben Toh (12)

    June 12, 2014, 22:16

    How to be a good Bible teacher. A friend shared on Facebook an extremely insightful and useful quote by C.S. Lewis from The Four Loves. I think that if all…

  • Good works done for wrong reasons are evil by: Henoch (9)

    August 4, 2010, 05:00

    When I was saying goodbye to my friends in Hannover, I invited them for pizza and Bible study. Surprisingly, some came. And so we had an interesting group…

  • Gospel = No Condemnation! Really?? by: Ben Toh (10)

    December 17, 2011, 12:03

    Does your God, boss, or pastor look like this judge? This past Mon, Dec 12, I appeared in traffic court for 2 offenses: a moving violation and no insurance…

  • Gravity: Discovering Life When Facing Death by: Ben Toh (3)

    November 17, 2013, 12:16

    Not to distract from bigbear’s important letter to Cincinnati UBF and to UBF at large and his first post (kudos!), my post provides some levity and counter-pr…

  • Guidelines for Best Shepherding Practice by: Ben Toh (54)

    April 28, 2013, 16:01

    A friend asked me (paraphrasing his question), “How may UBF communicate the best practice of shepherding?” This is my short reply. When "shepherding…

  • Happy Independence Day! by: BrianK (3)

    July 4, 2013, 07:25

    I am an American. I am born free. Jesus' gospel is the gospel of freedom. No more re-defining "freedom" for me! Freedom means you are free. Fast, on a…

  • Happy, Healthy, Humble View of Self by: Ben Toh (18)

    January 20, 2012, 18:02

    Real happiness. As I have been studying the little letter of Philippians, it is quite fascinating to me that Paul was truly such a genuinely happy man. He…

  • Have the Conversation on LGBTQIA - Part 1 by: BrianK (36)

    July 12, 2015, 13:39

    The defining question of the church in our generation, like it or not, has become this: What is your view on homosexuality? So instead of pretending this…

  • Have the Conversation on LGBTQIA – Part 2 by: BrianK (5)

    July 14, 2015, 12:48

    I plan to continue sharing each summary. Feel free to jump in at any time. I hope to share my reactions to questions posed to me from time to time by…

  • Have the Conversation on LGBTQIA – Part 3 by: BrianK (7)

    July 18, 2015, 22:45

    Thousands of former members have noticed the oppression at UBF stemming from spiritual abuse. Hundreds have documented their stories publicly on the internet.…

  • Have the Conversation on LGBTQIA – Part 4 by: BrianK (85)

    July 20, 2015, 23:10

    Here is my last part of the LGBTQIA conversation presentation. Even as I share these articles, my PowerPoints are changing, correcting and transforming. I plan…

  • Have You Lost Your Freedom? by: Ben Toh (5)

    August 15, 2012, 18:32

    Are you truly free as a Christian? The unique distinctive of Christianity among all the world’s religions is freedom (Gen 2:16; Jn 8:32; Gal 5:1; 2 Cor…

  • Having Fun by: Ben Toh (2)

    December 8, 2013, 09:41

    A key to having fun is to truly being yourself and living out who you are. When one is truly who they are, they live in the freedom and contentment and spirit…

  • He Descended into Hades by: Joe Schafer (9)

    April 23, 2011, 09:49

    Many of us recite the Apostles' Creed during our Sunday worship services to profess our faith and to affirm our membership in the universal Body of Christ. But…

  • He Is by: BrianK

    June 10, 2014, 12:35

    This video is stunning and amazing.                 Would not all Christ-followers…

  • He/She is a Mental Patient by: Ben Toh (33)

    December 12, 2013, 11:33

    Tragic caricature. The labeling and caricature of anyone is never justifiable. It is certainly not loving nor is it Christ-like behavior. For decades I have…

  • Healthy and Unhealthy Leadership by: Ben Toh (12)

    April 18, 2012, 10:00

    Unhealthy leadership is coercive. Leadership was addressed in my very first blog: Why Do We Have Divisions. Leadership is always important. The future of any…

  • Hello Malaysia, Ukraine and South Korea! by: BrianK (15)

    May 18, 2013, 07:37

    From time to time, as the technical admin here, I review our website statistics from Google Analytics. We may wonder who is reading this stuff. According to…

  • Holy Saturday by: BrianK

    April 19, 2014, 07:19

    This year, for the first time almost 30 years, I observed the Lent season. The Spirit made it clear in my heart what to abstain from: blogging. I love blogging…

  • Horrible Things Happen to Those Who Run Away by: Joe Schafer (27)

    September 2, 2015, 10:23

    In retrospect, one of the weirdest aspects of being in UBF during the 1980’s and 1990’s was listening to stories told by Samuel Lee. In his Sunday messages…

  • How big is your binder? by: BrianK (19)

    September 6, 2014, 10:37

    Three ring, white binders. Remember those? This week my son needed several three-ring binders for High School. Of course, as good and faithful ubfers in the…

  • How can smart people be controlled? by: BrianK (25)

    December 21, 2013, 14:57

    Ben's article about being mentally strong reminded me of Dr. Singer's work. Margaret Singer is the author of Cults in Our Midst.  One of her contributions to…

  • How Did You Raise Your Kids as a Pastor (The ABCs of Godly Parenting) by: Ben Toh (9)

    March 9, 2014, 22:56

    Yesterday, a friend made a comment to me about Katy Perry and Jessica Simpson being PKs (pastor’s kids), who apparently no longer profess to be Christians.…

  • How do Christians relate to culture? by: David Bychkov (10)

    October 1, 2012, 13:31

    In Jesus' final great prayer, he prayed for his followers to not be taken out of the world and at the same time remember that they are not "of the world" (John…

  • How do other people react to you? by: BrianK (10)

    October 12, 2014, 08:09

    Ok so today's article comes right from Brian's beer church. For about two years now, I have not attended a church service, apart from visiting my friends at…

  • How do you communicate with God? by: BrianK (6)

    June 4, 2014, 12:42

    I understand that I just asked a big question, and one that will certainly not be answered in this short article or on this forum. But it is a question that I…

  • How Do You Understand and Explain the Gospel? by: Joe Schafer (15)

    May 17, 2011, 18:07

    One of the issues that I perpetually struggle with is: How do we understand the gospel and faithfully articulate it in these times? Formulaic presentations of…

  • How Does Shepherd Paul "Feed Sheep"? by: Ben Toh (36)

    March 6, 2013, 13:10

    How does the apostle Paul shepherd God’s flock? To emphasize mission and Bible teaching, UBF has loved Paul’s imperatives from 2 Timothy: Endure hardship…

  • How Does UBF Teach Sanctification? by: Ben Toh (13)

    March 18, 2013, 21:01

    Does UBF teach an effort driven sanctification? Do correct me on this, but based on what I have heard for over three decades, UBF teaches this: “While…

  • How Great Leaders Inspire Action by: MJ Peace (6)

    July 25, 2014, 17:52

    Right now, I’m on the road. This summer I visited three different countries over the span of 6 weeks. It is tiring living out of a suitcase, but the good…

  • How I Experienced God by: Ben Toh (7)

    July 8, 2014, 06:27

    A friend asked me to preach a sermon on “Kingdom and Church.” This sounded rather broad and abstract. I wanted to decline because I have no idea what to…

  • How I Had Fun in 2013 by: Ben Toh (5)

    December 31, 2013, 07:07

    Is having fun a sin? For years I felt that having fun as a Christian was a sin. I felt bad watching movies and sports. So I took my Bible students with me to…

  • How I Met God (My Mystical Conversion) by: Ben Toh

    March 26, 2014, 00:00

    If God loves man, why does he command him not to eat the forbidden fruit? This is the story of my mystical conversion. In 1980 I left my homeland Malaysia and…

  • How My Life Changed Forever by: gc (24)

    June 23, 2013, 20:37

    Often times when someone has something important, someone close to them they are pushed to let go. We learn that it is our Isaac. This is a point that is…

  • How Should UBF Respond to Criticism? by: Ben Toh (18)

    December 26, 2012, 10:21

    How has UBF handled criticism? Perhaps not very well? Do we embrace and listen to what our critics say? My friend Brian Karcher is a critic of UBF (where he…

  • How To Be A Team Member by: Kevin Jesmer (5)

    October 18, 2013, 00:44

    How An Older Christian Can Be An Effective Member In An Intergenerational Mission Team “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just…

  • How To Improve Our UBF Messages by: Ben Toh (49)

    August 9, 2013, 09:21

    Critiquing our UBF messages (sermons) at the 2013 ISBC is NOT an indictment against the messengers. To say that a message sounds like the “same old same…

  • How to Read the Bible for All Its Worth by: Henoch (16)

    November 29, 2010, 09:22

    Yes, I know. There are tons of books out there dealing with the subject of how to study the Bible. And you may have read some of them and may feel that you…

  • How to Spot Contradictions by: BrianK (6)

    December 1, 2014, 21:27

    I suspect most of our readers here already know quite a bit about using logic and discerning truth from lies. If so, then I would love to learn more! As the…

  • How UBFriends Started: What You Don't Know by: Ben Toh (39)

    August 29, 2013, 16:45

    IMHO UBFriends gets a pretty bad rep from UBF. Discussions among some leaders invariably involve shutting down UBFriends or controlling it. It is also almost…

  • How Well Are You Discipling Others? by: Ben Toh (87)

    July 13, 2012, 07:45

    This is based on a fascinating 9 min video by Father Robert Barron about how he would teach his seminary students as the new President of Mundalein Seminary,…

  • How You Glorify Yourself by: Ben Toh (8)

    December 12, 2012, 12:18

    This could just as easily be titled, “How I glorify myself.” Why do we do this? It is part and parcel of our fallen humanity. It really does not matter how…

  • How's Your Mark's Gospel Study? by: Ben Toh (8)

    March 15, 2011, 11:08

    Have you been taught Mark's Gospel? Has Mark's Gospel been preached to you from the pulpit? Have you taught Mark's Gospel to others? From your recollection,…

  • I Am A Disciple of Jesus by: Ben Toh (2)

    January 1, 2012, 20:47

    Today, my friend Henry Asega gave the first sermon at West Loop UBF Church for 2012 and read what has been called “a Zimbabwe Covenant.” I was moved and…

  • I am not Anti-War, I am Pro-Peace by: MJ Peace (9)

    August 17, 2015, 21:24

    "I was once asked why I don't participate in anti-war demonstrations. I said that I will never do that, but as soon as you have a pro-peace rally, I'll be…

  • I Don’t Trust Dr. Ben by: Ben Toh (14)

    November 24, 2014, 18:37

    Highly autonomous. As a predominantly autonomously driven introvert and agent provocateur, the opinion of others likely affects me far less than it might…

  • I Dream of Absolute Honesty by: Wesley Jun (162)

    April 1, 2013, 20:17

    We often dream things we never think of while we are awake. Joseph’s two dreams concerned a thing he would have never thought of or imagined. Dream has…

  • I Have This Against You by: Ben Toh (2)

    April 6, 2013, 18:28

    Scary words of Jesus. These are harsh, critical and condemning words of Jesus to the church at Thyatira (Rev 2:20). To the church at Ephesus and Pergamun,…

  • I Will Awaken the Dawn by: admin

    April 24, 2011, 05:38

    My heart is steadfast, O God; I will sing and make music with all my soul. Awake, harp and lyre! I will awaken the dawn. I will praise you, O LORD, among the…

  • I will make you kosher by: MJ Peace (5)

    September 13, 2015, 00:15

    My favorite line So in August ubfriends started a book club. The book was A Fellowship of Differents by Scot Mcknight. I thoroughly enjoyed the book, good…

  • I'll Stand by: BrianK (42)

    August 31, 2013, 08:33

    You stood before creation. Eternity within Your hand. You spoke the earth into motion. My soul now to stand. "The Stand" by Hillsong United You…

  • I'm Done...Writing Testimonies by: Ben Toh (31)

    July 9, 2013, 10:42

    In 2007, 27 years after being in UBF, I woke up one morning and said to myself, “I’m done writing testimonies for the rest of my blessed Christian life in…

  • I'm Praying For You by: BrianK (4)

    October 13, 2015, 09:16

    The words haunt me. Ever since my name showed up on the Sunday announcements as someone "struggling and in need of prayers", the words are a shower of…

  • Identity Snatchers by: BrianK (24)

    September 6, 2015, 06:32

    Over a year ago, I wrote a provocative article here on ubfriends, entitled Shepherd Brian is Dead. It is an unfortunate reality that in order to have any…

  • Idolizing Mission? by: Henoch (16)

    September 2, 2010, 11:34

    Reading through the history of the Israelites in the Old Testament has always been a frustrating experience for me. Here's the reason: The #1 sin that appears…

  • If Not For UBF I Would Not Be Married by: Ben Toh (292)

    January 23, 2013, 20:04

    What I am sharing in this post is my happiest story. I have shared it uncountable times over the last 30 years ever since I “married by faith” in Chicago…

  • If Not for Ubfriends I Would Not Be Getting Married by: forestsfailyou (16)

    January 18, 2015, 21:09

    Although there are tons of marriage by faith stories out there, some good some bad- I in some sense feel that mine has a ring of uniqueness to it. Not to say…

  • If UBF Would Listen... by: Ben Toh (43)

    July 1, 2013, 15:07

    Over the past few weeks there has been more than usual comments and articles that I, who love to read your stuff, can’t keep up! The cynical part of me…

  • In Christ Alone I Stand by: Mark Mederich (2)

    April 21, 2013, 14:13

    At the last supper, the disciples disputed about who was greatest, but Jesus taught them the spiritual way: Luke 22:25-26 Jesus said to them, "The kings of…

  • In Jail Charged with Sexual Assault by: Ben Toh (11)

    April 19, 2012, 06:58

    Yesterday, I visited a former Bible student in jail. Last weekend, he was arrested and charged with aggravated criminal sexual assault and attempted robbery.…

  • Individualism, Collectivism, and UBF by: Joe Schafer (10)

    August 6, 2010, 05:00

    At a meeting of the Evangelical Missiological Society (EMS) back in 2008, one of the presentations that made an impression on me was given by Professor James…

  • Inspired to Love the Church by a Gay Christian by: BrianK (111)

    April 20, 2015, 08:25

    In April 2012 I was baptized by full immersion at our local Christian church. It was a wonderful and godly experience. The pastor's words "You are free from…

  • Is 0.3 Percent Enough? by: Joe Schafer (111)

    November 12, 2010, 20:43

    At last weekend's Harvest Festival in College Park, Maryland, my friend David Kim gave a lively and colorful presentation titled "Fruitful Fishing and…

  • Is America Free? by: MJ Peace (11)

    July 8, 2015, 19:54

    The spark of this article is a lecture we held at West Loop entitled "Homo-liturgics (Understanding our humanity through the act of worship and the litrugy)."…

  • Is Psalm 119 a Love Poem About the Bible? (Part 1) by: Joe Schafer (14)

    September 26, 2013, 09:07

    Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path (Ps 119:109). Psalm 119, the longest chapter in the Bible, has two prominent features. First, it is an…

  • Is Psalm 119 a Love Poem About the Bible? (Part 2) by: Joe Schafer (21)

    September 27, 2013, 14:59

    My job requires that I leave my home in Pennsylvania to spend part of each week in the Washington metropolitan area. While away from home, I miss my wife. We…

  • Is Raising Disciples the Main Purpose of the Church? by: anonymous (16)

    July 26, 2013, 08:38

    Editorial Comment: This was sent as a private email. But since it asks and addresses a fundamental and pertinent issue, I suggested that this be posted for…

  • Is there a time to use deception to get God's blessing? by: BrianK (59)

    May 29, 2011, 19:14

    As I read Ben's post earlier this month, What is the Point of Genesis?, I began thinking a lot about my own Genesis Bible studies. I have studied all 50…

  • Is There Glory and Honor in Reconciliation? by: Ben Toh (19)

    March 14, 2013, 20:53

    Reconciliation is the “hardest” job of Christians. The “easier” job is to invite new people to Bible study. A friend said, “It's better for UBF to…

  • Is This An Authentic Work of the Holy Spirit? by: Joe Schafer (8)

    January 31, 2011, 07:32

    If you have read my previous articles, then I hope you are becoming convinced that what Christians think about the Holy Spirit really does matter. But…

  • Is UBF Scared of Grace? by: Ben Toh (161)

    April 24, 2013, 20:42

    Is authoritarianism the reason people leave UBF? A repeatedly expressed sentiment is that authoritarianism causes so many to leave UBF even after decades of…

  • ISBC UBFriends Stats by: BrianK (8)

    August 3, 2013, 22:19

    I found the following statistics to be kind of exciting.   For August 1st to August 3rd, the most number of visits from a city to ubfriends.org is…

  • Issues UBF “Ignores” (are not ignored on UBFriends) by: Ben Toh (26)

    April 11, 2013, 05:36

    Commenting on the “Most Commented.” Scroll down the right side of this page. The last section is titled “Most Commented.” It is interesting to note…

  • It is Very Good by: forestsfailyou (87)

    May 7, 2014, 19:13

    In the last few weeks I have posted some content on this site that might be labeled as “critical” or “negative”. This obvious question I might get is…

  • It Must Come to an End by: BrianK (34)

    May 8, 2013, 06:09

    It must come to an end. If it doesn't end, it won't be healthy for any of us. That was the advice one of our pastors gave to a member of our cohort group as we…

  • It’s more fun in the Philippines - Part 1 by: forestsfailyou (7)

    April 22, 2014, 18:30

    It is very hard to start this story, because in some sense my trip has changed me in remarkable ways. Maybe it’s best if I start at the start. Why did I…

  • It’s more fun in the Philippines - Part 2 by: forestsfailyou (35)

    April 23, 2014, 06:46

    In Part 1 I spoke of the lead up to my trip. This story is the story of my trip so I will begin with my initial impressions. When I last left Paul had spoken…

  • It’s more fun in the Philippines – Part 3 by: forestsfailyou (11)

    April 24, 2014, 13:06

    In part 2 of my report of the Philippines, I mentioned some initial impressions of my time. I now want to speak of the actual content of the conference, and…

  • Jamie Oliver and Evangelism by: Henoch (15)

    July 11, 2010, 07:00

    Have you heard of Jamie Oliver? Jamie is a charismatic, passionate TV chef from Great Britain who knows how to cook and cares about social issues and the…

  • Jesus is Lord by: Vitaly (60)

    June 11, 2013, 03:34

    When Christians preach the gospel of Jesus they say to their converts that “Jesus is our Savior and Lord”. We all discuss UBF here and we all know what UBF…

  • Jesus is the Door by: BrianK (12)

    May 25, 2014, 09:00

    Today I woke up with John 10 on my mind, and immediately I began thinking of my comments about being baptized by Pastor Wayne. When I re-read the comments on…

  • Joe Paterno’s One Mistake: Should it Define His Life and Legacy? by: Ben Toh (20)

    January 23, 2012, 11:32

    Should one mistake define your life and legacy? Greatness and Shame. Joe Paterno (1926-2012) died yesterday. No one can take away his greatness as a head…

  • John 10 Testimony by: forestsfailyou (5)

    September 27, 2014, 15:04

    In the 10th chapter of John, Jesus explains he is the good shepherd. He uses a metaphor calling his elect sheep, and calling himself their shepherd. He says…

  • John Armstrong on Knowing When to Stop by: Joe Schafer (27)

    May 9, 2013, 08:15

    As I read Brian's last article, "It Must Come to an End," I thought about the importance of knowing when to stop. How many organizational leaders have…

  • Junk Food from the Pulpit by: Joe Schafer (8)

    December 13, 2013, 17:32

    In 1960, approximately 14% of adults in the United States could be classified as obese. By 2008, the prevalence of obesity had risen to one-third. Public-health…

  • Keep Spiritual Order by: Ben Toh (28)

    December 13, 2012, 15:14

    My thesis is that spiritual "order" is equality as in the Trinity, not hierarchy. Where hierarchy prevails, it butchers the Trinity, and makes Christianity…

  • Kingdom Strikes Back: Mission and Missionary (Part 1) by: Abraham Lincoln (4)

    August 9, 2010, 06:44

    How can we read the Bible through the lens of God's mission? "In the beginning God created the heaven and the earth," speaks about two aspects of God's…

  • Kingdom Strikes Back: Mission and Missionary (Part 2) by: Abraham Lincoln (2)

    August 11, 2010, 06:12

    The prototype of the"Great Commission" is found in Isaiah 49:6: "...a light for the Gentiles, that you may bring my salvation to the ends of the earth." After…

  • Law and Grace, Moses and Paul by: Ben Toh (17)

    February 15, 2014, 10:41

    Is there a conflict between law and grace? Does Paul contradict Moses? Grace alone. Alternate perspectives and counter comments have previously been bantered…

  • Learning from Forests by: forestsfailyou (5)

    January 5, 2015, 10:15

    What do you want to read? As many of you know I am about to be back from the Philippines after nearly a month stay. I have many things I could write about…

  • LeBron James Takes Responsibility by: Ben Toh (35)

    June 13, 2013, 13:43

    In Game 3 of the NBA Finals (6/11/13), San Antonio beat Miami by 36 points, which is the third worst loss in NBA Finals history. After such a humiliating…

  • Legalism by: Ben Toh (2)

    June 3, 2014, 13:14

    This is NOT written about UBF. This is from Tough Topics by Sam Storms on legalism, which is related to my previous post: Galatians Set Me Free From Legalism. …

  • Lessons from Travis: The good Christian by: forestsfailyou (10)

    October 10, 2014, 07:04

    It was a day late in late summer. The light streamed through the window into a room with several high school students. Two Chinese girls sat on a couch and…

  • Lessons from Travis: The Marriage game by: forestsfailyou (14)

    October 18, 2014, 11:42

    Who wants to play a game? The group of students paused in anticipation. “What’s the game?” a student asked excitedly. “Well it’s simple”…

  • Let 100 Flowers Blossom by: BrianK (5)

    September 16, 2015, 10:36

    This week I had the privilege to listen to Guy Kawasaki speak. It is refreshing to learn from an actual world-class leader. Guy is "one of the Apple employees…

  • Let Local Leaders Lead by: Ben Toh (17)

    July 31, 2012, 22:53

    In Manila, I am witnessing a vibrant work of the Holy Spirit in Philippines UBF, which I have not experienced in 32 years as a Christian in UBF USA. John…

  • Let's Reform UBF by: BrianK (32)

    August 20, 2013, 18:19

    After reading Joe's article about CMI and some private conversations, I am compelled to share and document the following declaration of reform. This declaration…

  • Levity From A Friend: Love Your Husband by: Ben Toh (3)

    August 8, 2013, 11:45

    Maybe some of you had heard this before. I had not and found myself laughing. After a friend emailed me this, I thought I'd post it to "lighten the mood"…

  • LGBT, Marriage, and Singleness by: Yohan Hwang (39)

    June 17, 2012, 20:47

    I will start with Richard B. Hays' take on the LGBT issue. He is a United Methodist, New Testament scholar and currently the Dean of Duke Divinity School. He…

  • Like Button Updates by: BrianK

    November 6, 2013, 13:26

    During this downtime for our conversations here, I thought it would be interesting to highlight some things we can learn from our "like" buttons. As I…

  • Lincoln, Life of Pi by: Ben Toh (25)

    November 30, 2012, 12:29

    Both movies will be nominated for multiple major categories during the Golden Globes and Academy Awards season. Though both movies are over two hours long,…

  • Listeners Are Born, Then Unmade by: Joe Schafer (9)

    January 7, 2013, 17:10

    Warning: This article may cause psychological pain by revealing that you are not a good listener. If you can’t handle the truth, stop reading, cover your…

  • Listening is Greater than Speaking by: Ben Toh (3)

    May 15, 2012, 16:01

    In Community (Chap 1 of Life Together), Bonhoeffer explains what destroys Christian community: “…the human element always insinuates itself and robs the…

  • Love God in 2014 by: Ben Toh (9)

    December 30, 2013, 12:55

    As 2013 comes to a close and 2014 approaches, a good thing UBF emphasizes is to write a review of the previous year and to choose a key verse for the New Year.…

  • Love Gone Bad: Demi Moore's Sad Downward Spiral by: Ben Toh (3)

    January 30, 2012, 10:16

    I’m really not lovable. A top recent celebrity news is that Demi Moore was hospitalized for inhaling laughing gas on Jan 23. Reports of her being depressed,…

  • Mark Driscoll Removed from Acts 29 by: Ben Toh (146)

    August 8, 2014, 17:47

    What we can learn from Mark Driscoll’s removal from Acts 29? The big news in Christendom today. Acts 29, a national church planting group with 500…

  • Marks of True Believers by: Ben Toh (17)

    September 23, 2015, 20:05

    At West Loop, I’ve been preaching on Isaiah every Sunday since the end of June 2015, beginning with How Stupid Can You Be (Isa 1:1-9). This coming Sunday…

  • Marriage By Faith (Should "No Dating" be a Church Policy?) by: Ben Toh (124)

    June 20, 2012, 17:39

    At some point in our one-to-one Bible study with our Bible student, we might encourage them not to date so as not to fall into sexual temptation. If they still…

  • Marriage is Covenant Keeping by: Ben Toh (70)

    October 5, 2011, 13:12

    Recently, a friend and member of West Loop UBF asked me about my wife. He and his wife were wondering if Christy, my wife of 30 years, had any sins, since they…

  • Marriage--Breaking An Engagement by: Ben Toh (79)

    April 19, 2013, 05:34

    I just “love” to talk about marriage, especially with singles. Teasing singles about their marriage with levity is just so much fun and cute. I have…

  • Married For 32 Years by: Ben Toh (8)

    August 18, 2013, 10:29

    This past week my wife Christy and I celebrated our 32nd wedding anniversary. Our older UBF missionaries have been married much longer than we have. But I…

  • Marry the One you Love or Love the One you Marry by: Ben Toh (7)

    April 7, 2015, 21:15

    Love and marriage. A friend from Malaysia made a comment to me yesterday. He said, “In the west people marry who they love. But in the east people love who…

  • Matthew 15 by: forestsfailyou (6)

    August 27, 2015, 22:50

    I have heard tradition described accurately as giving a vote to our ancestors. As with all principles, the principle which explains the law supersedes it. In…

  • Matthew 3 Testimony by: forestsfailyou (6)

    February 13, 2015, 15:47

    This is a copy of my testimony from last Sunday that was given before the message. Today’s sermon really touched me. I felt like it spoke to recent events…

  • Meaning, Application, Message by: BrianK (14)

    June 21, 2015, 08:41

    For those interested, I would really like to have more theology related discussions here. I have been learning that a robust and helpful understanding of the…

  • Memorial Day 2015 by: BrianK (2)

    May 24, 2015, 10:59

    Memorial Day in the United States is a day of remembering the men and women who gave their lives defending freedom. It is a day of somber remembrance and…

  • Methods and Aims by: forestsfailyou (19)

    November 11, 2014, 23:31

    “And there is this difference between the matter of aims and the matter of methods…”- Gk Chesterton, Heretics I recall a childhood story about a girl…

  • Midweek Question: Different Ways to Present the Gospel by: Joe Schafer (64)

    November 9, 2011, 13:41

    For a long time now, I have been thinking about the various ways that Christians evangelize. More specifically, about how Christians frame the gospel and…

  • Midweek Question: Message Do's and Don'ts by: Joe Schafer (79)

    September 5, 2013, 14:29

    A lively discussion has begun on this website over whether it is constructive to post reviews and ratings of specific messages delivered at UBF Sunday worship…

  • Midweek Question: Resolving Conflict by: Joe Schafer (39)

    September 15, 2010, 15:55

    Last week, the thoughtful Christian blogger Mark D. Roberts began a series of articles titled "What to Do if Someone Sins Against You?" He contends that: Soon…

  • Mission Versus Sanctification by: David Bychkov (17)

    March 8, 2011, 14:04

    In a comment on the article Word, Spirit, Gospel and Mission (Part 8), Joe pointed out that in UBF we rarely preach about sanctification. In Reformed theology,…

  • Mission/Legalism/Tradition Hinders Spiritual Growth by: Ben Toh (10)

    June 12, 2012, 19:10

    Welcome back from a break. Thank you, admin, for your labor in the Lord! Emphasizing mission. Since 1961, UBF’s strength has been our emphasis on mission.…

  • Missionaries Must Nurture Relationships by: Kevin Jesmer (14)

    September 9, 2015, 18:20

    1 Corinthians 12:18-19 “But as it is, God arranged the members in the body, each one of them, as he chose. 19 If all were a single member, where would…

  • Missionaries Must Nurture Relationships, Part 2 by: Kevin Jesmer (19)

    September 19, 2015, 10:48

    “The eye cannot say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” And the head cannot say to the feet, “I don’t need you!” (1 Cor 12:21, NIV) The Christian…

  • Missionaries Must Nurture Relationships, Part 3 by: Kevin Jesmer (11)

    October 3, 2015, 14:38

    A “Person of Peace” And The Family “I thank my God every time I remember you. 4 In all my prayers for all of you, I always pray with joy 5 because of…

  • Missionary Empathy- 4 things I learned in the Philippines by: forestsfailyou (13)

    January 13, 2015, 23:49

    I know that last time I said I was going to write about my marriage by faith, and I promise that I will post that in due time. I planned on posting it this…

  • Missions Conference 2014 Synopsis by: MJ Peace (5)

    November 4, 2014, 18:42

    There was a Missions Conference at Moody Bible Institute October 14-17, 2014. I wish all of you could have attended. It was completely free. I decided to make…

  • Misunderstanding Faith by: Ben Toh (16)

    October 15, 2014, 09:29

    “If you have faith, you can marry.” “If you have faith in God, you can raise 12 disciples.” Did I miscommunicate biblical faith? I used to make such…

  • Misunderstanding Sin by: Ben Toh (40)

    November 23, 2014, 00:41

    He is IMPORTANT in the church. When a friend shared with me some horrible sin of a person in the church, I said, “For his sake and for the sake of the…

  • More Thoughts on the Updated NIV of 2011 by: Chris Kelly (69)

    March 24, 2011, 05:00

    Editor's note: Last month, Ben W posted an article that was supportive of the NIV 2011. The piece below, which was written by Chris Kelly and first appeared on…

  • More work equals more blessing? by: Vitaly (22)

    October 13, 2013, 18:58

    In this article I’d like to discuss a clear ubf teaching that I heard very many times in my ubf chapter in Yekaterinburg. Brian provided us some space to…

  • Most Christ-like Heretics in 2014 by: BrianK (12)

    December 14, 2014, 00:50

    Do you know what it feels like to be called a heretic? Well I learned from the best! Here is a quick summary of the most Christ-like voices among the heretics…

  • Muslim - Christian dialogue: taboo or necessity? by: Libby (43)

    January 21, 2015, 13:22

     I don't have to mention the news we get on TV nowadays related to the Middle East and what is happening there under the name of Islam - and it makes us…

  • My "Worst" Humiliation by: Ben Toh (43)

    January 10, 2013, 10:55

    Humiliation is very difficult to talk about. Perhaps, some ex-UBFers who share “abuses” that they experienced in UBF, arose from feeling humiliated by…

  • My "Worst" Infuriation by: Ben Toh (188)

    February 9, 2013, 12:05

    I had previously shared about my "worst" sin and my "worst" humiliation. In keeping with my predisposition toward making sweeping generalizations and extreme…

  • My "Worst" Sin: Losing ,000,000! by: Ben Toh (38)

    February 10, 2012, 14:14

    What is my “worst” sin? All sin is serious (Num 32:23). All sin leads to death (Rom 6:23). So “worst” is relative; it does not in any way lessen the…

  • My 7th Book by: BrianK (21)

    July 1, 2015, 08:13

    The recent Christianity Today book review of a UBF 2nd gen's book "The Spirit Moves West" prompted me to get back to a book draft of my own. Rebecca Kim's book…

  • My Baptism Testimony by: Nianzu (14)

    August 25, 2014, 14:01

    Editorial note: Nianzu Ma is a graduate student at UIC (the University of Illinois at Chicago) studying for his Ph.D in computer science. He fellowships with…

  • My Concerns About The International Conference by: Ben Toh (363)

    May 15, 2013, 22:17

    (My original title was “Why I Won’t Attend the International Conference.” But I was persuaded to change it to a “less hostile” title.) Let me state…

  • My Concerns About The International Conference, part 2 by: BrianK (54)

    May 21, 2013, 19:16

    Earlier Ben shared an article expressing his concerns for the upcoming UBF ISBC (International Summer Bible Conference) to be held in Pennsylvania. The article…

  • My Confession by: BrianK (60)

    May 14, 2011, 08:38

    To Rebekah B. Kim in Houston: If you are reading this, I want to apologize. I was one of the Toledo brothers who broke into your house one cold winter…

  • My Confession, Part II by: Ben Toh (30)

    September 23, 2011, 22:14

    In My Confession, Brian confessed how in 1990 he illegally broke into the home of James and Rebekah Kim, the very fruitful Director of Toledo UBF for over a…

  • My Dad by: Ben Toh (10)

    June 9, 2014, 18:45

    I am working on my sermon next Sun with the theme of Father for Father's day. Then I began thinking about my dad. Love. My dad died two decades ago in the…

  • My Dilemma Between the Dichotomies by: Ben Toh (3)

    February 3, 2014, 13:41

    The saddest dichotomy that I have experienced in my 34 years of being a Christian (all in UBF) is between those who are strongly loyal UBF defenders and…

  • My Feelings about UBF by: fellowshipbible (25)

    March 18, 2015, 09:29

    Here is a somewhat poetical but not completely poetical writing I wrote about what I would tell my Pastor if I thought he would listen. How I want to cry…

  • My First Few Days in Chicago by: forestsfailyou (32)

    March 9, 2015, 16:30

    Last Friday Chicago held a campus mission night. I traveled from St. Louis to Chicago for the event. My pastor had the missionary meeting so he was not…

  • My Gospel Story of God's Grace by: Ben Toh (3)

    September 26, 2014, 16:14

    Forgiveness. I extemporaneously shared my story of God’s grace in my sermon last Sun: Gospel of Grace. I have previously shared parts of this before. I first…

  • My Journey of Recovery by: BrianK (14)

    August 15, 2013, 22:59

    Ever feel like you are carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders? Ever feel crushed and suffocated by the weight of your burdens? As a member of ubf,…

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    Do share your experiences and reflections from the 2013 ISBC. Share the good the bad and the ugly. When we share only the good (as on UBF websites), it is…

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    I sense that the Bride of Christ needs us to pray for her now. Here are some excerpts from The Book of Common Prayer. Will you agree with me on these in…

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    As a student of psychology, I encounter many research studies that can speak on matters of faith and personhood. If the Bible teaches us about who man…

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    Which would you rather have: Greater self control or higher intelligence? There are obvious advantages to choosing intelligence. You would have an enhanced…

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    During the holiday break, I did a lot of reading, praying and thinking. I happened to come across a preacher named Eric Ludy and the Ellerslie Church. After…

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    February 21, 2011, 10:09

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  • Rebirth in Eau Claire by: Abraham Nahm (12)

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    In the summer of the year 2000, God led my family to the University of Wisconsin, Eau Claire, where we are currently carrying out our mission work. Eau Claire…

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    Greetings UBFriends from Russia! I would like to direct you to a good talk by Sinclair Ferguson (1948 - ).  He is a Scottish preacher from Glasgow, but now…

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    We Christians want a revival in our own ministries, churches, nation and world. But no revival happens corporately before it happens individually. No revival…

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    After losing one million USD to a conman in 2004, I said to my wife, “I’m sorry.” Perhaps, I never felt worse in my life because I knew how much I had…

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    The recent film Kill the Messenger is based on the true story of a reporter named Gary Webb who worked for a mid-sized newspaper during the 1990’s. By…

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    Your sin will find you out. “But if you fail to do this, you will be sinning against the LORD; and you may be sure that your sin will find you out” (Num…

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    February 24, 2012, 13:12

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    You always notice someone in church, or in class, or at work, but you will never tell anyone. How do we Christians overcome the ever present temptation to lust…

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    I was touched by this 2 minute video showing God’s grace to one whose dreams were dashed to pieces: Shattered Dreams. It was choreographed by Tim Fitch to…

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    Now that I’ve got your attention… I’d like to share the last puzzle piece of my recovery from my twenty-four years in University Bible Fellowship. This…

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    A while back, one of our readers asked for an article that explores the relationship between UBF shepherds and sheep. Many volumes could be written about that…

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    December 30, 2012, 11:51

    A verse every Christian experiences. Christians love the story of Joseph in Genesis. In the big picture, it proclaims the marvelous and majestic sovereignty of…

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    May 18, 2012, 10:26

    Tim Keller writes in the forward of Bonhoeffer by Eric Metaxas that Life Together “is perhaps the finest single volume I have ever read on the character of…

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    Here at UBFriends, we are willing to publish any kind of creative writing and artistic work that honors God. A while back, we received an audio recording of a…

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    Building one’s own kingdom. The sin of every man---including Christians---is to build their own tower of Babel (Gen 11:4). They gather and centralize the…

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    March 4, 2014, 07:57

    The sin beneath the sin. A Christian lies and says, “I did not slander you or gossip about you behind your back.” We conclude that the person sinned by…

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    Ben's excellent article, "Good Teachers Make Themselves Unneeded", which was inspired by a friend's C.S. Lewis quotes, inspired me to expound on a topic I…

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    Perhaps because it is so hot here in the midwest, or perhaps because these words struck a cord with me today, I decided to publish a poem submitted by Brian…

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    October 23, 2014, 21:16

    Recently I was studying Galatians 1 with a friend. When I read the verse “if we or an angel from heaven should preach a gospel other than the one we preached…

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    Sometimes theologians and church people forget how culture expresses the "spirit of the times" and that such expressions can have something profound to teach…

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    Reading this news shocked me. The youngest son of Rick Warren, Matthew, aged 27, has committed suicide after a life long battle with mental illness, depression…

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    This is the first article in a series I've entitled “Sophomoric Musings”. I view my musings as sophomoric for two reasons. The first is that the word…

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    For over 2 decades as a UBF fellowship leader, my uncompromising implicit imperative to others was, “Shape up or ship out!” Looking back, it is a surprise…

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    For a long time, I mistakenly assumed that a spiritually mature person is one who directed by faith rather than emotion, one who consistently denies or ignores…

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    This is the third article in a three-part series. These articles were meant to be read in their proper sequence. Please do not look at this article this until…

  • Suggestions for UBF Ethics Committee by: fellowshipbible (56)

    August 29, 2014, 20:47

    I wanted to contact UBF Ethics committee but I could not easily find their contact information at ubf.org. If they are serious about making ethical reform…

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    This year is the 400th anniversary of the King James Version of the Bible. For hundreds of years after its publication, it was the standard English version of…

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    In the discussion following my last article, a reader who goes by the name "vmi" asked a good question. I just want to ask Joe if you have tried the…

  • Telling it to the Church, Part 3 by: Joe Schafer (92)

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    Yes, the time has finally arrived. The moment that handfuls of you have been waiting for. After a two-year hiatus, we pick up the story that began with…

  • Telling The Truth (How West Loop UBF Began) by: Ben Toh (58)

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    As Joe is telling it to the church (I am lovin’ it with high fives!), I wish to tell the truth as a parallel post. UBF leaders like to say among themselves…

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    I’ve heard rumors that some at ubf ministry think I am doing the work of Satan or that I’m even Satan himself. Forests also reported hearing such things in…

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    A certain someone named BK told me to be direct with my testimony this week. The message this week was on Galatians 6. BK must forgive me, because his book…

  • Thank God for 2014 by: forestsfailyou (10)

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    2014 has been by far the most exciting year since 2009 when I went to college. I have so much to be thankful for. God's grace has truly been with me. Janua…

  • The 10 Commandments of UBF by: Ben Toh (24)

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    I am the LORD your God who delivered you from human systems that keep you in bondage to slavery (cf. Ex 20:2; Deut 5:6). You shall not put your church…

  • The 100/0 Principle by: MJ Peace (11)

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    While preaching through Titus, I came up with the BCD of Bible teaching and preaching. Each letter stands for 2 words which should always go together when we…

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    Because I have found myself in the unofficial, unsanctioned exit counselor role for ubf, people from ubf have contacted me for help at the rate of once per…

  • The Brain Science of Ambition by: admin (2)

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    Yesterday, after we published Gerardo's article on theories of intelligence, a fascinating article appeared on Scot McKnight's Jesus Creed blog: Ambition...…

  • The Church I Want by: BrianK (14)

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    So what kind of church do I want? Here is what I dream about, think about, ponder about, wish for, hope for and look out for. This is the kind of church I…

  • The Conundrum of Approval by: MJ Peace (1)

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    “If you just set out to be liked, you will be prepared to compromise on anything at anytime, and would achieve nothing.”- Margaret Thatcher. Chapel with…

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  • The Difficulties of Genesis 1 (Part 2 of 2) by: Henoch (37)

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    August 6, 2012, 15:30

    Lately I’ve been spending a lot of time thinking about how to approach Scripture. When I was discipled in my present church, I was taught a very specific…

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    November 3, 2013, 11:34

    If. It is a small word, just two letters. I like the word better in Russian, “если”. Or perhaps in French, “si” or German “wenn”. And even…

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    April 14, 2013, 07:58

    I would like to share with you about a book written by Timothy Keller. He talks about three parts; The natural condition of the human ego, the transformed view…

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    May 11, 2013, 08:08

    This is part two of Keller’s book “The Freedom of Self-Forgetfulness” report. Freedom is so precious like diamond. It cannot be easily obtained. It…

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    February 2, 2015, 11:29

    The title is intentionally provocative, even if I genuinely mean it. It probably displeases “both sides.” (Sorry to say but there are “two sides,” as…

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    December 28, 2013, 09:53

    A monster? If someone had never met Samuel Lee and all they knew about him they read on the Internet, then he is an egotistical megalomaniac and a cruel,…

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    June 5, 2013, 13:53

    The good. UBF has many good godly Christians. UBF people are also generally very sincere. This may be a reason why many have come to Christ through UBF people,…

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    February 22, 2012, 17:08

    Is there any gospel in Linsanity? Yes! Linsanity happened because a most unlikely person literally came out of nowhere to become the “savior” for a Knicks…

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    January 17, 2012, 13:15

    If you intend to go and see The Descendants do not read this, for it contains movie spoilers. It won the Golden Globe award for Best Motion Picture drama,…

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    July 18, 2013, 16:11

    During my ten years of Bible study in UBF, I was taught many wonderful truths. Some of those truths led me into a personal relationship with my Lord Jesus,…

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    January 6, 2015, 01:37

    Marriage is the second biggest choice anyone ever makes outside of their choice to accept Jesus. Every culture the world over has marriage of some kind, along…

  • The Happiest Compliment I Ever Received by: Ben Toh (2)

    March 14, 2014, 21:18

    I love my four kids. I love each of them. My sense of pride as their dad knows no limit. They are indeed God’s best gifts to me; they tangibly reveal the…

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    January 13, 2011, 00:01

    The importance, nature and work of the Holy Spirit are not well understood by many Christians today. And in that category, I definitely include myself. Since…

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    January 17, 2011, 13:26

    In the last post, I argued that the Holy Spirit plays an indispensible role in our understanding of the gospel. We see abundant evidence for this in Scripture.…

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    January 23, 2011, 06:23

    If you are a Christian, then you ought to call the Holy Spirit "he" rather than "it." The Spirit is not an invisible power or force, but a person who thinks,…

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    January 28, 2011, 17:46

    Beneath the surface, Christians have many unofficial, unstated, and untested notions about the Holy Spirit that profoundly impact their spirituality. These…

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    March 23, 2012, 18:19

    For the first time ever, I saw a movie by myself on the first day. I felt odd in that everyone else seemed to be under 30 years old, with the majority under…

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    November 24, 2013, 10:45

    When I asked, What is the central theme of your life, Brian answered and explained why his center is justice, which is a crucial center for God (Gen 18:25; Dt…

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    March 16, 2012, 12:23

    It feels like there is an imposter claiming to be the bride of Christ. She wears a similar veil so that it is often difficult to tell the difference until you…

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    December 14, 2011, 13:09

    Why do you do what you do as a Christian? A previous post, Christianity is the End of Religion, contrasts Religion with the Gospel. As a Christian, we do…

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    November 17, 2014, 06:53

    Do’s and don’ts. Don’t flirt. Don’t lust. Don't watch porno. Don’t date...until you’re ready to marry by faith. Don’t be lazy. Work hard. Prepare…

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    In 1942, C. S. Lewis published The Screwtape Letters. The story is written as a series of letters from a senior demon, Uncle Screwtape, to a junior demon (his…

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    May 30, 2013, 12:59

    One of the topics that keeps surfacing here on this blog is spiritual abuse. This is a topic that has garnered growing attention in recent years among American…

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    July 18, 2010, 07:00

    "Be killing sin, or it will be killing you." How are believers supposed to deal with remaining sin in their hearts? Those who align themselves with Reformed…

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    June 29, 2011, 05:49

    If you’re as old as I am, you might remember this annoying TV commercial from the 1970’s.The executives who came up with this ad imagined that, if each…

  • The Myth of Multiplication, Part 2 by: Joe Schafer (9)

    July 20, 2011, 13:41

    In the first installment of this series, I challenged the popular notion that the church expands primarily through multiplication. Multiplication is the…

  • The Myth of Multiplication, Part 3 by: Joe Schafer (3)

    July 25, 2011, 12:11

    In Matthew’s version of the Great Commission, Jesus said, “Go and make disciples of all nations” (Mt 28:19, NIV). For most of my life, I interpreted the…

  • The Necessity of Penal Substitution (Part 1) by: anonymous (6)

    December 2, 2010, 05:00

    In the 19th century, the hymn writer Philip Bliss penned the following lyrics regarding Jesus Christ: "Bearing shame and scoffing rude, in my place condemned…

  • The Necessity of Penal Substitution (Part 2) by: anonymous (8)

    December 5, 2010, 19:19

    In part 1 of this series, I presented evidence from Scripture for Penal Substitution as a primary view of what happened at Calvary. But what about other…

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    October 5, 2010, 09:19

    Philip Jenkins, writing in his pre-9-11 book The Next Christendom, laments the fact that religion -- in particular, the dawning of the movement of Christianit…

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    August 29, 2015, 09:40

    "Criticism- doubt informed by curiosity and a deep knowledge of a discipline related to your work... Cynicism- doubt resulting from ignorance and antiquated…

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    December 5, 2014, 13:53

    I recently read an article authored by OT scholar and professor Peter Enns in which he discussed the compilation process of the OT (link to article here). This…

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    June 25, 2013, 12:34

    Forgiveness is such an important subject and one of the main teachings of Jesus. Jesus taught his disciples to forgive those who wronged to them seventy times…

  • The Pain of Leaving UBF by: Ben Toh (19)

    February 21, 2015, 09:43

    (Admin note: I, Bento, did not ask permission from Joe to post this. I’m making an assumption that he would be OK with me doing so since he posted it on…

  • The Power of "And" by: BrianK (3)

    November 10, 2013, 12:14

    Word clouds are fascinating to me. For example, copy and paste some text into wordle.net and you'll be able to create a visual image of the most repeated words…

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    March 6, 2015, 12:41

    What if we figured out and did good and right things now? What if we had already done them years, even decades ago? On the other hand, what if we don't do them…

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    August 16, 2010, 07:53

    In 1983, Donald Schön published The Reflective Practitioner. The book is not explicitly Christian. I am not sure whether he is a Christian, as the book gives…

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    August 26, 2014, 19:34

    I used to consider some activities as spiritual (sacred) and others as worldly (secular). Spiritual. I thought that carrying out 1:1 Bible studies on the…

  • The Satisfaction of Justice (Django Unchained) by: Ben Toh (6)

    January 30, 2013, 11:29

    This is a reflection of Django Unchained. It has uncountable racial slurs and is ultra violent, typical of a Tarantino movie. It is not recommended for kids…

  • The Secret of Happiness in 2015 by: Ben Toh (3)

    December 31, 2014, 15:54

    The last day of the year sets the stage for the first day of a brand new year. It inclines us toward having a bright optimistic outlook to start over anew and…

  • The Shepherding Movement and UBF (Part 1) by: tortilla_chip (31)

    January 15, 2014, 13:38

    There is a book making rounds among many churches by John Bevere called “Under Cover: The Promise of Protection Under His Authority.” It’s been some time…

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    January 21, 2014, 12:08

    In my last article, I shared how Allen Clare introduced the Shepherding Movement of the 1970s and connected it to John Bevere’s 2001 book “Under Cover.”…

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    March 21, 2013, 21:14

    As an “older” Christian, it is so easy for me to rant and rave about the sins of “younger” Christians and non-Christians: lust and laziness, impropriety…

  • The Six Stage UBF Training Model by: BrianK (61)

    July 6, 2014, 16:40

    The most important aspect everyone needs to understand about UBF ministry is the six-stage training process. When I joined in 1987, no one had ever…

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    April 18, 2011, 08:10

    This is the first part of a three-part series on the parable of the sower, focused on the version of that parable that appears in Mark 4. In the second…

  • The Sower (Part 2) by: Andy (14)

    April 19, 2011, 08:29

    In my last installment, I gave a brief introduction to the parables of Jesus in the gospels, and laid out a framework of "levels of meaning" that I claimed can…

  • The Sower (Part 3) by: Andy (10)

    April 20, 2011, 08:44

    As I hope I made clear in part two of this series, my preferred way of reading the parable of the sower uses Level 2 (the parable in the narrative context of…

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    March 19, 2012, 10:12

    The quotes below are from a report from a two-day intensive Gospel in the City conference held in Seoul on Feb 20-21, 2012 (written by Stephen Um, a Korean…

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    October 28, 2012, 11:11

    UBF bashing? Some say that UBFriends promotes UBF bashing. Perhaps, there is a fine line between being transparent with full disclosure, and being discreet and…

  • The Symposium by: forestsfailyou (33)

    November 2, 2014, 11:58

      I have only been in my current chapter for a little over a year now, but I feel like what happened last night was something, by accounts of many…

  • The Tank Man: Language Defines Reality by: MJ Peace (11)

    July 16, 2015, 09:23

    A Chinese protestor blocks a line of tanks heading east on Beijing's Changan Blvd. June 5, 1989 in front of the Beijing Hotel. The man, calling for an end to…

  • The theology of “Gross!”: What modern psychology can teach us about purity, disgust, love, and the gospel by: Joe Schafer (54)

    September 15, 2014, 12:28

    Back in January, I posted a sermon I delivered on Ephesians chapter 2. I wrote: In these verses, Paul makes the surprising claim that the law – God’s…

  • The Time Has Come! by: admin (29)

    August 1, 2010, 00:00

    The moment has arrived. UBFriends has emerged from its construction phase and has officially launched. Our first post is a special piece by our friend John H.…

  • The Ubferator! by: BrianK (10)

    September 3, 2015, 21:51

    Hey everyone, we just topped 19,000 comments! The conversations have been rather heavy lately, so I thought we could all use a good laugh. I am in tears from…

  • The Unforgivable Sin by: Ben Toh (59)

    September 29, 2015, 09:21

    Have I committed the unforgivable sin? This coming Sunday I will preach on The Unforgivable Sin from Isaiah 22. One of my Bible students has asked me repeatedly…

  • The Upside Down Kingdom by: BrianK (4)

    August 11, 2013, 15:01

    One of the points in Chris Brown's sermon at the 2013 WCA Global Leadership Summit was about Jesus turning leadership upside down. Here is a different sermon…

  • The Value of Acceptance by: BrianK (18)

    January 8, 2015, 12:57

    We just want to be accepted. This is often the cry of humanity. And far too often the response (directly or indirectly) of the Christian church is: You are not…

  • The Way of the Cross is Dialogue by: Sharon (140)

    March 3, 2012, 10:24

    Bowing to alternative views that appeal to us has always been a temptation. We refuse to believe there is only one way of salvation, only one way to the…

  • The Woolly Mammoth in the Room by: BrianK (11)

    August 7, 2013, 18:15

    As I read through Ben's reflections on the 2013 ubf ISBC and the comments that followed, I was encouarged to see honest sharing. That tells me the gospel…

  • The Work of Satan in Mexico by: BrianK (81)

    March 11, 2015, 10:14

    In light of the public prayer topic for our ubfriends in Mexico, I would like to share some news so that you can pray more clearly about the situation.…

  • They want Christ, not Christians by: MJ Peace (41)

    August 22, 2015, 13:28

    "I like your Christ; I do not like your Christians. Your Christians are so unlike your Christ."- Mahatma Gandhi Going back to Seminary produces mixed…

  • This is My Life by: BrianK (5)

    September 13, 2014, 14:41

    “It feels like we are just floating in space.” That’s how one of my friends who left UBF ministry with me described how she felt after leaving. I can…

  • This is the Night by: admin (1)

    April 23, 2011, 21:40

    This is the Night, Which throughout the world Frees all who believe in Christ From the vices of their time-shackled existence, From the lightless dungeon…

  • This is your Church by: BrianK (7)

    October 12, 2014, 11:19

    So for anyone at UBF, here is what your leaders think. This is your church in a nutshell. Why do you put up with such things? This is from a SL worship…

  • This Week's Question: House Church or Family? by: Joe Schafer (30)

    July 30, 2010, 11:26

    When couples get married in UBF, it has become common to say, "They established a house church." The terms house church and family are used almost interchangeab…

  • Thoughts on Christian Friendship by: John Y (65)

    March 12, 2012, 07:35

    Some time later Paul said to Barnabas, “Let us go back and visit the believers in all the towns where we preached the word of the Lord and see how they are…

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    May 5, 2011, 08:41

    As all of you are certainly aware by now, Osama Bin Laden has been killed by brave Navy Seals who put their own lives at risk to rid the world of him. As I…

  • Three Books for Free by: BrianK (8)

    December 26, 2014, 13:10

    As 2014 comes to a close, I want to share my three books with you that I published this year. Instead of retelling my story so much, it has been very helpful…

  • Tim Tebow and Paul's Sport's Imagery by: Ben Toh (7)

    January 9, 2012, 12:16

    Let me first explain to those who are not living in the U.S. and who are not fans of the NFL (National Football League), because you may not know who Tim Tebow…

  • Tired of Talking About UBF by: David W (29)

    May 13, 2014, 20:21

    Note: this article is for those who have decided to remain in UBF but are endlessly frustrated. It is not for everyone to remain in UBF, so I understand and…

  • To be or not to be...a shepherd by: forestsfailyou (10)

    August 14, 2014, 11:43

    I recently heard a story of a man from a UBF chapter far far away from me. The topic of him becoming a “Shepherd” had been raised numerous times to him and…

  • To Stay Or Not To Stay? by: anonymous (462)

    March 18, 2011, 09:50

    When is it a good idea to stay in a church or para-church ministry, and when is it better to leave? This was the question that Dr. D. Martyn Lloyd-Jones…

  • Toledo UBF Message - Just Obey by: BrianK (77)

    August 31, 2014, 10:10

    Now it's time for another Toledo UBF message review. This one is a doozy. The Message If you want to read the original message delivered in August…

  • Top 10 Things Not to Say to an Ex-UBFer by: BrianK (8)

    January 17, 2014, 04:49

    Sorry to post this the same day as your movie post Ben, but I'm a late-night TV sinner not a movie sinner like you :) I couldn't resist sharing this Top 10…

  • Traits UBF Leaders Do Not Like by: Ben Toh (24)

    June 20, 2013, 11:36

    UBF leaders clearly do not like those they regard as rebellious, stubborn, proud, self-directed members who do not listen to them, obey them, wait on them, or…

  • True Love’s Kiss by: Ben Toh (22)

    August 22, 2014, 15:46

    Not necessarily a chick flick! This is a random, jumbled musing after I finally watched Maleficent, which was thoroughly satisfying. It reminded me of Frozen.…

  • Truths Learned In and Out of UBF by: joshua (12)

    April 12, 2013, 12:47

    I joined UBF in September, 2002 when I was seventeen years old. After serving the Lord for nearly 10 years, God led me to say farewell in August, 2012. God has…

  • Turning Pressure into Beauty by: BrianK (90)

    February 26, 2015, 13:26

    Pressure. It builds, it mounts and then it explodes. And it is the one reason my fellow outlaw preacher, John O'Keefe, claims as the primary reason people are…

  • Two Kinds of Shepherding by: Ben Toh (6)

    July 30, 2013, 14:48

    This might be a redundant article in that I had recently written related articles: guidelines for best shepherding practice, how the Apostle Paul "feeds…

  • Two Things I Want To Say to Every Sheep by: BrianK (202)

    May 4, 2015, 15:14

    Once you join UBF bible study, two words will forever be seared into your mind: shepherd and sheep. Everything at UBF depends on this fundamental relationship.…

  • UBF and Dialogue: What Joe, Charles and Pope Francis Say by: Ben Toh (33)

    February 24, 2015, 10:25

    Admin Note: Having a genuine meaningful dialogue in UBF is a very important issue that absolutely needs to be seriously addressed and practiced. I say this…

  • UBF at the Crossroads by: Joe Schafer (213)

    August 21, 2013, 21:00

    UBF is in a crisis. Many will disagree with me. "Stop exaggerating," they'll say. "Don't worry, have faith! Focus on the positive. Remember what God has…

  • UBF Doctrine - Behavioral Slogans by: BrianK (19)

    August 1, 2013, 09:33

    How then shall we live? I heard that famous question many times in ubf. In fact, the first 7 ideological points of the ubf heritage were often quickly taught…

  • UBF Doctrine - Ideological Slogans by: BrianK (13)

    July 27, 2013, 13:16

    Just to re-cap, next up on my systematic review is point 8 of the 12 point ubf heritage. This "house church" point begins a new section, which I call "behaviora…

  • UBF Doctrine - Introduction by: BrianK (55)

    July 5, 2013, 16:00

    What does ubf believe? What are their doctrines? The answers to these questions have been ellusive at best for over 50 years. Some people point to ubf's…

  • UBF in Crisis by: BrianK (23)

    August 25, 2013, 08:50

    Joe's last article has brought me an unexpected amount of resolution and healing  on my journey of recovery from University Bible Fellowship. If a senior…

  • UBF Needs Troublemakers by: Ben Toh (111)

    August 12, 2013, 08:16

    Please cause trouble! A friend sent me this link and I thanked him for paying me the highest compliment: Make Trouble, My Friends. It is a commentary of what…

  • UBFriends Admin Notice by: BrianK (6)

    June 1, 2012, 16:29

    The admin team here at UBFriends wants to thank everyone who has contributed articles, made comments or read along silently! We are hopeful that this…

  • Ubfriends Book Club by: David W (59)

    May 11, 2015, 15:02

    Hey ubfriends community, how's about we form a good ol' book club on this site? After seeing some of the theology-related comments and perusing some of the old…

  • ubfriends is changing by: BrianK (1)

    October 17, 2015, 03:40

    Change is coming! Meanwhile, enjoy this first comment from Ben (which is the 2nd comment ever on ubfriends!) Ben Toh (2010-06-25 16:17:39) "Hi Joe, You Be…

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    March 7, 2014, 01:52

    Admin Note: This is a comment to Sin Is Having An Identity Other Than In God: "For 27 years my (Ben Toh's) identity was in my faithfulness to never miss a UBF…

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    October 12, 2015, 13:25

    Is sorry puppy always supposed to be sorry? This blog post discusses the phenomena of feeling the need to constantly apologize for one's existence. It's…

  • UnbeLin-vable! by: Ben Toh (5)

    February 15, 2012, 16:03

    I never thought I could be a fan of a New York sports team. Sorry, New Yorkers! Nothing personal. But Linsanity changed me. As we might say, I was "cooked,"…

  • Uncommon Aspects of "Common Life" by: Mary Y (15)

    February 5, 2011, 17:14

    He likes the Steelers; I could care less about the NFL. He likes "The Office" on NBC; I love the "Real Housewives of Beverly Hills" on Bravotv. He watches…

  • Utmost Love and Respect by: admin (24)

    February 14, 2015, 14:43

    Last time I had an argument with my wife, I was confident I was right and she was wrong. I had been wrong many times before. But I was sure this time I…

  • Vox Populi Vox Dei by: forestsfailyou (11)

    December 2, 2014, 01:05

    In times of trouble and conflict we are accustomed to call upon the practical man. Unfortunately the opposite is needed. For the practical man can only do the…

  • Walking in the Light of Absolute Honesty by: Joe Schafer (133)

    May 8, 2011, 09:22

    One word that appears frequently in UBF messages, testimonies, mission reports, and prayer topics is absolute. If you type "absolute" into the search engine at…

  • Walking in the Shoes of the Other by: BrianK (16)

    August 11, 2015, 09:23

    Empathy. The ability to understand and share the feelings of another. I am blessed and cursed with empathy. It's one of my top 5 strengths based on multiple…

  • We have loved the light by: BrianK (10)

    August 28, 2014, 19:11

    Recently, Ben shared his thoughts on Mark Driscoll being removed from Acts 29. As I read more and more articles and comments, I am more and more amazed at how…

  • We Need Your Help! by: admin (4)

    September 29, 2010, 12:29

    This website was created three months ago. Is UBFriends having an impact? You bet it is. One way to measure impact is to examine the traffic flow. Our…

  • Wesley's Reflection on Authority and Authoritarianism by: Wesley Jun (153)

    May 31, 2013, 00:01

    (Editorial Comment: This is Wesley's detailed and lively unedited response to Ben's sermon on "Shepherding Sheep" last Sun, May 26, 2013, at West Loop.) Ben,…

  • West Loop UBF, 2008-2014 by: Ben Toh (7)

    December 15, 2014, 14:21

    Living with my head in the clouds. Last year I shared how West Loop (WL) UBF began in 2008. This is a follow up random, limited and selective reflection…

  • West Loop’s first sermon in 2008: Where is your vision? by: Ben Toh (2)

    March 20, 2015, 17:21

    Editorial note: While searching for an old email, I happened to find the first sermon preached at West Loop UBF on Jan 6, 2008. It is over 6 years ago. I feel…

  • What 2nd Gens Need From Their Dad by: Ben Toh (57)

    November 14, 2012, 21:28

    Barnabas Piper, son of John Piper, wrote about 7 Things a Pastor's Kid Needs from a Father. I sent it to my four kids and asked them how I measured up (or did…

  • What a First Day in Philippines UBF by: Ben Toh (7)

    July 22, 2012, 17:38

    For 8 years, I visited Philippines UBF yearly. It has been an indigenous UBF ministry led from the outset by Filipinos for the last 25 years. I have felt the…

  • What Are Friends For? by: Joe Schafer (18)

    February 20, 2013, 10:25

    "As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another" (Pr 27:17). At a recent breakfast with a group of Christian men, one person offered this verse as an…

  • What are we talking about? by: BrianK (23)

    January 23, 2013, 11:16

    Three years ago we started this blog in hopes that it would become more than a blog-- perhaps we could become an influence and an online community which would…

  • What Bible Verses Transformed Your Life? by: Ben Toh (27)

    December 15, 2011, 15:30

    This Christmas, consider with thanksgiving the Bible verses that have significantly affected you. Think about them (Phil 4:8), meditate on them (Psalm 1:2) and…

  • What Can UBF Do? by: Ben Toh (42)

    December 18, 2012, 18:06

    Comments heard are that UBFriends states ad nauseum all the wrongs of UBF without stating what can be done. Perhaps so. But I believe that some good and some…

  • What Cs Lewis had to say to college students by: forestsfailyou (1)

    April 25, 2015, 21:07

    Did you know Cs Lewis once gave a commencement address? Cs Lewis is largely regarded as the most influential Christian in the last century. If you…

  • What do followers want? by: BrianK (6)

    March 17, 2013, 14:51

    Leadership. That's a word I've heard a lot about the past 25 years. We Christians talk an awful lot about leadership: Who is a leader? Who is allowed to be a…

  • What Happened in Toledo UBF - Part 1 by: BrianK (123)

    September 10, 2013, 10:31

    In a recent comment Vitaly asked numerous valid questions about what was going on in Toledo UBF. It will indeed take many years for the ministry there to…

  • What Happened in Toledo UBF - Part 2 by: BrianK (124)

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  1. Mark Mederich

    maybe a religious corollary is:
    good food=helpful word of God
    good service=helpful conduct
    cleanliness=sincerity/authenticity

    may the Spirit guide us to God’s words and help us interpret God’s meaning for good purpose

  2. I’ve heard (and read) countless notable church leaders and leadership books say virtually the exact same thing: the starting point of turning around a declining church is to face the painful truth about your church…with your church.

    It starts by listening not to themselves (like the declining restaurants, they think everything’s fine!), but to others. Until that happens, things cannot but continue as they have been, which is downhill. This is just what many books and leaders say.

    • Yes, Ben, it may be easy to dismiss the obvious solution to most problems: love. But it is so hard to do. I find that we often need someone to point out the obvious.

    • Mark Mederich

      Hard listen to others because they may be wrong but can listen to God if the Spirit helps find true good meaning

  3. Mark, those are things I had in mind… What “food” does your church offer? How is your church serving people, especially people not from your church? How transparent are your church’s leaders, i.e. do they hid their dirty laundry or are they vulnerable, accountable and approachable?

    The “food” issue was a major point of contention during the Toledo ubf collapse. We were supposed to keep regurgitating the same old lectures, derived from SL’s lectures, over and over again. We were supposed to just look the other way when the Sunday lectures were used as a public shaming mechanism.

    Most of us concluded that we just could not keep eating such crap.

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